Holy shit bro that is a golden mindset for any guy who wants an abundance of women in his life at a certain point in time.

I'm working my way out of it I feel. I got a few cuties numbers tonight. Had a fun time, they enjoyed it and so did I. I still need to reframe myself, I know this for a fact but right now I at least feel happy that i'm progressing away from that pit.

Right...

I still have a few problems but I think i'm realising the real issue here: I need to be in control.

I force IOIs, I get IOIs back, I hold the gaze and let her break. I do this a few times over and she reciprocates. 70% of the time she will approach me if she's confident. This is where it breaks with me... She approaches me. When she approaches I feel she takes control and that intimidates me. I don't like that, it puts me off.

To fix my issue, or try to overcome it i'm thinking I need to continue my game as is until she approaches me in which case I stop her, tell her to "calm down!", take control and have things going at the pace I choose.

Example of tonight where I got intimidated:

An SHB9 came up to me after forced IOIs, puts her arms around me, asks my name, tells me she's not from around "here" and asks me to dance. I get intimidated and can't think to respond so I introduce her to someone else. She talks to him, blows him off, sighs and walks away. Bad form on my part, I know but i'm here to get over this shit.

What I should have done:

SHB9 puts arms around me. I back away...

Me: "Whoa, calm down!" "What's your name?"
SHB8: "Blah"
Me: "I like it..." *Continues gaming as normal*

Forcing IOIs in clubs is new enough to me. It's working absolute wonders and i'm not even that good looking. I'm average but this is working far too well. I've got my posture, mannerisms and mentality of not needing anyone down(To the point where I genuinely want my friends to leave me alone) to a T I feel and this is reflected especially when I force an IOI with someone. If I calibrate this well enough I may have found my calling for Night Game.

I like control. I like control in sex and especially kissing a woman. Once I get going I need to take control... It only makes sense for me to have control the entire time.

What is forcing IOIs? Is that like you give IOIs or you do something to receive IOIs?

You show IOIs and make them obvious. It can be making eye contact and waiting for her to break it, pointing and telling her to come to you or looking directly at her and winking. That kind of stuff.

Interesting. It's more or less what I do to find approach invitations.