So there is a receptionist at my Vet that I flirt with and she seems interested. I wanted to ask her number but I couldn't think of a good way to ask her when she's at work. Anyways, I'm friends with the owner and I know where their Christmas party is. It's at a pub where I hangout so I show up there.

I'm out front smoking and she walks bye. She notices me but was already most of the way past. I wait til she comes back and say hi. We chat for a bit, I teased her about I thought she always wears scrubs. We split and talk to others.

So I'm being social and talking to other people, girls guys whoever. She's standing alone so I approach. She offers me her drink and I tell her now she doesn't have to worry about germs when we make out later. Then I say I'm just kidding I'm gay. Told her she had pretty eyes. Idk if this shit's any good I'm a newbie here but it seemed to work. A few minutes later we're standing in a group I grab her by the hand and tell her I want to show her something, and she came with me. I was just going to take her outside and try to kiss her. Anyways her fat friend runs up and grabs the other hand and drags her away, cock blocked.

I kept talking to other people and tried to talk her alone again but I think now defense systems are activated and I never really manage to. At the end of the night she's sitting in her car about to leave, I ask for her number. She's like "No you where talking to every girl here". Maybe so but I was talking to everyone there and I didn't try to pick up any other girl, just being social, but I didn't say that to her. She was like "you can come bye the vet office". I felt like by now I'm trying way too hard, a few times I though she had left and I was kinda prowling around for her. So I was just like "forget it" and walked off. Later I took some leftover food to my car she was still right there and I ignored her.

So I really would like to hangout with this chick sometime, and she is in reception at my vet so I will see her again. Idk if I've blown it or not. My question is when I go back there, how should I approach her? I was just thinking to be smiling and just try to chat for a bit, then ask if she goes on break soon.

If she's helping someone else and I get a different girl, should I just call her over and try to talk to her? I want to be direct but I don't want to look like I'm trying too hard or make her feel uncomfortable at work.

Any advice is greatly appreciated.

This is a tough one, she's already rejected pretty hard. If you walked off in a "huff" I wouldn't even bother with this girl.

'Meet more girls' is the old standby and always works if for nothing else than to get your mind off of a particular girl.

Do that and when you are at the vet someday, you will have damn near forgotten about this girl and you can re-engage with your casual demeanor you've gained from all the new girls you're meeting.

This is actually an interesting case. She has this "player" image of you because you were chatting up with girls, and that's good. Don't act affected in ANY way. Go in the vet, say "Hi" with a smile and move on with your day. You do not have to try again, because she will. She's just scared to get emotionally fucked by you if she gets too attached.

Try your best to be casual and don't go too cold on her for now, but you also have to be around her for her to initiate contact. See if you can manage to do that in any way (if there's another pub gathering), and stand alone, smoke a cigarette, or anything that would isolate you by yourself and look at her. When she looks back, just smile and tell her whats up and then tell her "come". Strike up a conversation, a 15 minute one AT LEAST and get to know her better. If her friends interfere, you can always introduce yourself to them and ask for some time with her. That should do the trick without getting into any fights/misunderstandings.

Thanks guys, great advice. I will update whenever I see her again, but in the meantime, on to meeting new girls!