I've found shy girls require a whole different game and approach.

Could use some opinions on how to play this one.

My ex-flame (shy and innocent) inboxes me out of the blue last week, saying hey how's life. Her vibe's good, I run decent game (and sincerely talk to her), getting to the point where we talk on Christmas shopping. She says she's good at shopping, and I asked her to come with and help me out. She says she has dinner that night, but offered to come out afterwards, which wasn't convenient for me.

I transition and bounce off this to an ice-cream date in the park (innocent date for innocent girl, great kino-ing opportunity and plays off my strengths) and which she is excited about and drops smileys all over the place.

After that? She goes cold over Christmas, doesn't message for a solid day, and when she comes back seems disinterested. I ask her when's good for those ice-creams (commanding a date and time doesn't work with her) to which she says maybe the next day's afternoon. I say sure thing sounds good, and she replies only for a little bit. Her interest died and sparked down, so I said we'll do it on a day when she's more free.

I've forced the issue with her before in January when she was only half interested, and it went no-where. In short, what would you PUAs recommend I take this now? All other non-shy girls I play this fine, but for this to go anywhere, her interest has to be up with when we were first talking about it. How would you play this from here on out?

-SilverTonguedFox

I was in this situation yesterday girl was all interested then boom it just died. What I did at the 1st hint of coldness is run the I'm divorcing you routine if you don't know it look up Badboylifestyle.com check out his texting guide. I ran that it worked like a fkn charm. My buddy had a girl go cold and flake I gave him that routine he ran it BAM!! Worked like a fkn charm for him too. On a side note when it comes to shy girls what I do is get a convo going then tell them an embarrassing story about myself then they open up a lot easier.
Good luck!

The thing with shy girls is that they are usually shy for a reason. This reason is either that they are too self-concious, or that they have been screwed over badly. Now if they are very selc-concious that means that no compliment will have a real effect. If they have been screwed over, then a direct compliment might just backfire. So you should be careful with them. Now the other thing with shy girls is that most guys tend to give up with them easily because most guys only care about getting laid, and once they find out that they can't bone a woman in 2 days they just disappear like a ninja. And these girls are pretty fed up with this. So a good strategy would be to be genuinely interested in her, as a person. The only problem with that though, is there's the danger of friend-zone. To avoid this, you shouldn't really talk to her too much on social networks, or texts. Because verbal hints won't work much(as stated before) and you can't make non-verbal hints, only when you're face to face with the girl. The key thing, is to find something that can be a base of a connection. The easiest would be to find similar taste in basically anything. If the girl feels you're somewhat similar to her, it will be easier for you to set-up a date. Where you can get to know her, but avoid the friend-zone with strong, masculine body language, and proper frame control.

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Since you already have a history with this girl, your best bet is to use that and bring up the fun and precious moments you have already spent together. Women are emotion based ( shy or not shy) they make decisions based on their current emotions, with that being said, it's important that you remind her of the connection you once had and paint a picture of fun to come. Once she is sufficiently warmed up, extend the invite but be sure to make it sooner then later ( to capatalize on her current emotional state) even if its just for a quick meet up, you can always change her mind in person.

Please keep in mind that it is very common for ex's to reach out to men (they've once dated) during the holidays(especially if they are single) and not necessarily a sign of rejuvinated interest. It is an emotional time for most and women often reminisque quite a bit during this time. This happens to me quite often and I am no longer suprised at all to hear from any ex during the holidays even the ones from over 10 years ago. When I was younger I had no explaination for it and just called it "ex-mas sex"

As far as gaming random shy girls go, it's very important to spend the necessary time in building comfort and creating a connection. However! once this is established, it is time to challenge them and break them out of their shell. In my experience with adult shy women, they are just waiting to explode out off their shell. I've had great success by simply showing them the opposite of shy and being extremely outgoing while on dates with them. Shy people are often embarrased easily and tend not to express themselves publicly, if you do the opposite and show them how you dont care and cannot be embarrased it generally gives you a higher value through their eyes. ( as long as you still have respect and show some class and just have fun with it)

If you notice her loosening up a bit, be sure to acknowledge it and verify that it feels good and invite her to keep it going.

Note: dont make an ass of yourself or put the shy girl on the spot in public.

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Oh shit. I forgot to mention one of the most important things, haha. Thankfully, SexAddict is here and right on business. The key concept that caught my eyes is this:
This is very important. Be sure to acknowledge, validate, and reward the shy girl when she is opening up to you, because this shows to her that this is the behaviour you expect. Not much more to add. Only one thing.

You have said it was an "ex-flame". I'm not quite familiar with english slang phrases, eventhough my grammar is pretty good. I'm not sure whether this means that you two had some real things going on, or just sort of "felt it". Because if it's the former, then you can basically ignore almost everything that I have said in my previous post, and just follow SexAddict's advice.

Peace,

In$tinct.

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