What do to with a 18 year old girl who puts out the third time you see her (known each other for something less than 2 hours all together). Then after a few months she arrives again at your place but says that you only invited her for sex. You still kiss and grind, but nothing happens.

And she constantly talks: where are your other girls, why did a call me, bla bla bla.... (She thinks I'm a major player, I am far from that.) I told her that it is better if she doesn't know, that she doesn't really know me, and that she is wrong. Then she said prove it.

I thought she wants to be FB, now it seems like she is looking for a relationship. But she has a lot of guy friends, and told me how she wanted to hook up with someone two weeks ago bla bla bla...

Overall probably huge buyers remorse. We chatted the next day and in the end I told her: Lets go for a drive tomorrow to get some ice cream, without sex, no pressure!

She hasn't replied since since (Friday), and she is constantly on fb.

I am really confused. I want to be just FB, don't see her as LTR material.

It's hard to tell without seeing what kind of girl she is.

It seems like maybe she thinks she gave away too much too fast.
It might not have been a bad idea to say no sex

You can try curiosity? If she says something like what she says you can say something like
"Are you worried that I might not respect you?"
"Are you worried that I might think you're just easy if we have sex?"
or whatever you might genuinely think she's feeling

when she answers don't correct her at first, nod your head like you're listening to show you understand
then paraphrase what she said back to her, "right, so if I get you, you think that x because y"
if you can add a feeling so much the better

after she has vented because she feels safe doing so she will feel much less insecure

if she asks you a question about your level of interest just say, "I'm enjoying spending time with you so far, lets get to know each other better and see how we get on." or something like that

be authentic with it, don't shit around
a lot of people think they need to be fake but there is a massive attraction to a guy who is unflinchingly real

if push comes to shove you might have to say I'm only interested in something casual at the moment, but not right away, you don't know her that well yet, you're entitled to some time to make a final judgment.

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tnx. yeah, I realised later that we should have an honest talk that evening. I still plan to do that, if she ever replies.

I don't know good I handled the situation when I invited her for a drive. I was planning on being totally laid back and fun to show her i'm not seeing her merely as a sexual object, and wait for her to attack.

She is very hot and I'm quite picky guy. She seems like a high maintenance and confused one though...

at this point, waiting for her reply, suggestions what should I do..?

Enjoy your life?
do whatever makes you happy that doesn't concern her

if she doesn't get in touch then you can consider initiating contact, until then let her take the initiative

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I was planning to do that either way : )

she's not the only girl in my life, life is more than ok right now!

she lives 3 minutes away and has that perfect petite body u know, and it would be fun having her around

Dude those were all shit tests. You failed them. Should've said stuff like, " what other girls, I'm still a virgin?" or "What do you mean why did I call you? I thought we were going to make cookies?" Doesn't matter just don't take her so seriously when she puts you on the spot.

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so u don't think it's buyers remorse?

She is constantly worried about that. Before we first farked she was all over me if I invite every girl to my place, did I also ever invite her distant cousin (who also lives on the same street), ...

Then, next day, after the first time we had sex she thought it was a mistake. And now again told me that we shouldn't have had sex that early, that I am a player, I invited her just for sex, where are other girls,..

I mean if those were shit tests, there was a mothafu**ing a lot of them, and she is one crazy female.

I don't think it's buyers remorse. She said it herself that you two shouldn't have had sex that early on. She might have felt like a slut for it happening that fast. There must have been some factors that made her have sex with you earlier than she was comfortable with.

I still believe those were shit tests, because she was with you again after you has sex with her. After you answered those questions she was gone. Ultimately the bigger deal is how you are going to solve this whether it is moving on or not.

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oh I'm moving on, lesson learned. For all future shit test from now on I'm just gonna go " you're so cute..."

the easiest one

I don't think it was buyers remorse either and those are great responses HSP gave to being asked where your other girls are I am going to try and remember those!


it might be better that you're moving on is she's only interested in a relationship and you want casual fun it's not nice to lie someone into bed xx better luck elsewhere!

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I agree with all of you.

I also think she realised I'm only in it for sex, but ASD was definitely present, and definitely my fault all the way. I should have acted like I'm not interested in sex, and take her for a drink like she first suggested, and then take her home. Than it wouldn't look like we only met to have sex. Or at least, I should controlled the kissing and the sex.

All good, she seems like a lot of work anyway..., 18 year old "just wanna have fun" girl

Yeh that's right buddy. Keep pretending and actling like someone you're not just so you can get laid. I'm sure the childish head fuckery your having with yourself will keep you entertained for hours.

Buddy, you can have your own theories, I care more about the flea on my neighbours dog.

IMO, honesty is the best policy in these type of scenarios. The way I'm reading the scenario is that the girl saw through your front, and realizes you are in it just for the sex. If you were up front about your desire to be FB, the girl might have refused, though there is element of honesty there. On the other hand, she might have realized that you were being honest and decided to be FB, perhaps desiring more in the long run. In any event she no longer trusts you, and you can only trick her into having sex so many times. It appears that she caught on faster than you expected.

I agree, I totally failed in this situation.

And there is one more stupid thing, at the end of my message I wrote that she was right, but I didn't write what exactly she was right about. Could be she interpreted it like: You were right, I did invite you over just for sex. What I meant was: you are right, we should not have had first sex that fast.

And man, that is just mean, I don't want to tell things like that in a girls face, even though it is true. But it seemed like she is also contacting me again after 2 months & stopping by just for sex, so it didn't feel wrong.