| Met girl, did everything better than BF. Cocky, cool, did push+pull. 2 Months in, we're having sex. 5 months in, she breaks up with BF. I had to go overseas for 1 month, but during that time, I lost my composure and was acting like a bitch, paranoid and obsessive. Come back, we immediately start seeing each other again, and the signs are there that her interest level didn't drop too low. She wanted to take me out to dinner, long stares at my face, lots of smiling, lots of intimacy.
Problem: The other day, I run out to buy a toothbrush because she asked me too, as she wanted me to spend more time at her house. So I think, yeah sure, don't turn down an invitation like that. When I get back, she's making breakfast for us. But, I checked her phone while she wasn't looking, 'cause I had the sneaking suspicion she was still in contact with her ex. And yup, she was. Not only was she in contact with him, but she tried to call WHILE I STEPPED OUT TO GET THE TOOTHBRUSH! Looking through her text log, it's apparent she broke up with him, but he chased her for a couple weeks. Then he started pulling back, little by little, until he was replying to every third or fourth text she sent.
I left, saying I had an emergency. Then I thought it over for a couple of days, and basically told her I saw the messages, and that I was gonna give her "space with no contact between us," as she clearly wasn't over him. My thinking was, if her ex is playing the "chase her then pull back slow" strategy, in order to defeat that I have to cut off all contact, so she ends up missing me more than her ex.
Was this the right strategy?
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