Little background: I'm currently a JR in college at a U.S. university. The majority of my game takes place at house parties and talking to girls in class. I very rarely do cold approach on campus as it's less effective than the other methods in my experience.

I don't have much of a problem getting #'s, gaming girls at parties, getting makeouts, and even getting F-closes on occasion. My biggest problem arises when I basically get "lovestruck" by a particular girl. Whenever I get super interested in a specific girl I have this fucking switch in my head that won't turn off and won't let me stop thinking about them. This has lead me to come off as extremely needy at times which is obviously a huge turn off to women.

I guess the main problem I have is rarely having the "upper hand" in the relationship. It's easy to say what you should be doing "In theory" but some of these girls have 10+ guys texting them on a daily basis that all want to hang out and fuck them. One time a girl showed me her phone and there was 32 unopened texts from guys.

Here are some Q's I have to start off the discussion-

What do you guys do when:

Clearly you are are more invested in a "relationship" than she is (even if a very casual relationship)

You are usually the one to text first and set up meet ups or dates

They do something shitty (I.E. stand you up)

If you're in the game as a single guy, oftentimes the best prescription is to play the same game she's playing. She has 32 incoming texts. You have 32 outgoing texts to girls you've met over the last while. That level of abundance is good protection against obsessing over a single girl.

You have to also determine what you want - a relationship, ONSs, FWBs, etc. If you are looking for a LTR then it's a whole other set of skills.

I agree with you, and that's pretty much what I do. However 32 is a huge number I have 10-15 girls I've met throughout the year that I text on a regular basis, some I've hooked up with, some just friends.

A few girls that I've hooked up with numerous times are pretty much FWB at this point and a couple I'm considering possibly taking the relationship further.

ONS's are fun and all and they will always be my fall back but I also enjoy having main chick.

What specific skill set would you suggest for taking the next step in a FWB relationship?

Be honest with yourself. What do you really want? Are you at a point in your life where you want multiple FWBs or where you want a monogamous relationship?

It's difficult to turn a FWB into a girlfriend, because you two basically agreed to have no strings attached sex. The only way is to be honest with your feelings. If you lose the girl, then so be it. You have other FWBs; that's why abundance rocks.

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Is it really difficult to turn a FWB into a girlfriend? I mean I don't really remember "agreeing" to have no strings attached sex with any of my FWB. All of my past girlfriends started as FWB as far as I recall.

Would be cool to see some more input on this