I have a theory that an AFC being born is related to the lack of a good example when growing up.
Basically there are three people that can contribute to whether a boy will grow up to be a man or a vagina.

*Father
*Brother (if they have one)
*Mother

1. Your Dad is the man of the house, naturally you would see him as someone you need to grow up to be unless you absolutely despise them and disregard everything they do or say. If the man of the house is a vagina, puts you down/is too strict, or doesn't teach you to be a man you will grow up to the opposite of what your genitals claim you are.

2. An older brother can be your friend growing up or your enemy, either way they both apply. If an older brother never grew a pair himself and made excuses to better others rather than them self, who is that going to reflect upon? Just like the father, brothers can be a bad role model to the younger sibling to the same degree. Older brothers could have also found their way and bullied the younger brother into a state where they just take orders or think they'll have their ass beat. This would make the younger one grow up too gentle allowing the world to step on them.

3. Lastly mothers are quite the opposite, except steering towards AFC from a different direction. Mothers are (usually) overly kind and unconditionally loving to their children. This builds a relationship that a boy may become too comfortable with as he grows up. He may treat other women in a way he treats his mother and expects them to unconditionally love him back. Obviously from being on this website anyone will realize this is not the case.

I would like some feedback on whether this sounds accurate to some. Personally a combination of all three were involved when I was hardcore AFC. Anyone else?

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In high school I couldn't figure out why some guys were good with chicks and some werent. We all just guys who want pussy why are some good and some not.

Most of the time the answer was role models.

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Good post man. I agree with alot of what you are saying. A role model is extremely important...

As someone who comes from a divorced family myself, being raised by my mother, it wasn't really until I decided to stop being such a bitch and take the steps necessary to better myself and toughen up a bit that I began to feel like a man. We are a generation of men being raised by women. We are taught from a very young age that being a "soft pussy" is okay... and it's not.

You make good points. It goes even deeper than this.

The parents to a child are godlike figures. Without the parents the child will literally die, therefore any abandonment by the parents is life-threatening. This is why the first few years of a child are probably the most important, however, following years are equally as important.

If the child has loving parents (loving used in the sense as M. Scott Peck does in "The Road Less Travelled") then the child will have parents it trusts completely. Loving parents here are parents that sacrifice their time, work on their child, show it both affection and soft punishment when something bad has happened, and parents that help the child grow into an independently thinking person, someone who can stand on his or her own feet, because ultimately this is the role of the parents. The role of the parents is not to discipline it into whatever they themselves are or believe in, it is to discipline the child into choosing what it itself wishes to believe in (thus creating even more trust as the child sees that the parents really do care for it).

If there is genuine love as described above, the child will completely trust its parents, however even if genuine love is not present, the child will still trust its parents because they are all it has. This means that the parents could be devastating to the child's mental growth. If the child sees father beat up mother and mother taking it then that's just the way things are. Couple that with unloving parents towards the child and you have a maelstrom.

But usually things aren't this extreme. Usually the parents show love, but fail to show true discipline. True discipline is not discipline that is taught to the child, but the discipline the child learns through the parents' behavior. If the father says that child should do his homework, yet child sees that father doesn't have a job and drinks, then consciously it thinks I have to do my homework, but unconsciously it thinks "Why do I have to do my homework when dad doesn't even have a job?" The father himself has no discipline, therefore the child will not have discipline either.

It is not usually the fact that if the father is a pussy then child will be a pussy, but rather if father has no DISCIPLINE or LOVE that son will have a lack in something elementary. If the father shows he has discipline in work but no love in the family, then son will steer towards mother and resent father, since father never helped him in anything. This can lead to an overabundance in motherly affection, causing neediness in women later on in life. Dependency. The son needs the affection, and when he isn't getting it from mother, he needs it from a girl. The girl replaces the mother. The father probably never taught him anything since there was no genuine love, so the son does not trust father in teaching him anything valuable. This translates into son not trusting other males, such as male friends. This may also lead to him not wanting to be like his father, seeking, through anger, to change himself for the better, only to become like his father, since his father was probably an angry person himself that did not change.

However there are traits that the son will have from father from early childhood as well. However all traits can be changed as the map gets outdated and a new map gets updated. This takes time and effort, however many many behaviors, if not most are attributed to parents' behavior towards their child.

If the mother threatens the child with abandonment in early childhood, the child will perceive women, or even the world, to always be abandoning him. Obviously this is not the case, but this has been instilled into the child's brain from early childhood.

And it goes on.

Yes you are definitely right that parents act as rolemodels. It goes incredibly deep.

True. That was an important deeper perspective.

The only problem left is trying to fix the men harmed by these situations.
If that was easy then none of us would be here and this website would not exist.
-The Struggle

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I was raised by a single mom as well. She is a good person no doubt. BUT she is a little fuckin nuts. She panics in most stressful situations. I took that from her.

It wasn't till I met my current boss who actually started teaching me business and shared some stories bout life and what not. He definitely became my role model. Before i met him my life was aimless. now i have goals and the sky's the limit.

Thing about a role model is that they are not something you strive to be. But through they're example you learn how to accomplish tasks.

We definitely need more men in the world cause most i see aren't.