I dont often approach girls randomly - i just let the conversation occur naturally in daily life- but i do like approaching random girls on the beach. The combination of the fresh air, beautiful scenery, and a half naked girl is very stimulating. Im in good shape and and feel very comfortable on the beach, but often the conversations are a little awkward. Perhaps im giving off some "overly excited" vibe thats stresses them, but i dont think thats it - i think the girl is uncomfortable because she is often alone and somewhat cautious (i prefer to approach single girls), or she is a little self conscious (i also approach topless girls). I find them more receptive when i approach in the water - and less receptive when they are sunbathing. Im also wondering if perhaps when i approach sunbathers the fact that i wear a hat and sunglasses is more threatening than not wearing them as i do for water approaches.

Anyways, id like some advice and even a basic script i can use as a framework as im not sure about mine. Im not the sort of guy to throw them a ball and get all playful- im more intimate, relaxed, deep thinking but somewhat intense. With water approaches i can often comment on something to start a conversation (like a person nearby who just got dumped or a good surfer i can see), but generally, especially for sunbathers, its simply a weather related opener: "Hi, amazing weather isnt it? You here on holidays? Oh, where are you from? etc." - i find that really boring and im sure they do too. Any ideas? Also when they are sunbathing it can be hard to hear (windy etc) so you have to get close to say "hi" and that perhaps also stresses them, particularly if topless. So yeah, any ideas on a script would be great, as well as some tips and advice, but at this stage, im thinking of just seeing a hot girl and following her into the water for a chat--but that can often take awhile..(and why should i wait for them, right!)

Test different approaches. For the sunbather approach, try using a similar opener that you'd do for the water approaches which you said work well where you see something going on in the area and you comment on it. Also try testing sunbather approaches without the shades/hat to see if that makes a difference.

You could also test changing your physical position relative to them when approaching, as in kneeling in front of them vs. laying next to them vs. telling them to sit up for a minute so you can have a little chat (and therefore be on the same eye contact level).

One other thought regarding these approaches:

When they're sunbathing, if you used your situational approach it could "force" them to sit up without you having to say 'sit up': You could approach by sitting on the beach next to them and be like 'hey check out that surfer out there' or whatever. Then she's at your same eye level and it's time for a convo.

Thanks for the replies. Ill factor in your advice for sure.

I saw on youtube a guy recommending approaching sunbathers with a bag (of your beach kit) and simply asking them if they can look after it while you go for a swim. You swim for 5 minutes and then come back, thank them and have a quick chat. I think that's a great idea and id like more innovative ideas like this.

When I was starting to read the thread, without knowing about the youtube vid, I was going to suggest the exact same thing. It worked very well for me on the beach. Also, I don't know where are you from, but here in Hungary, beaches are filled with pub-like places where people go to socialize. You can open there easily, and then invite them to play some ball games in the water, or usually beaches have places to play valleyball which can be very fun too.

Also, I'm not surprised the girls feel uncomfortable when you're talking to them with sun glasses. Hell, even I feel uncomfortable when someone doesn't take it off when he's talking to me. The reason is that I can not look into the person's eyes who is talking to me. It's just weird for me, and I think many women could feel the same.

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