So, yesterday my SPAM celebrated his birthday in our apartment. Among other people, I invited a girl from my uni class (who I thought I had some chemistry with).

As we all started drinking (she didn't, says she doesn't like alcohol) I got my spirits up. I sat with her at the sofa, touching all the time, even held her hand for a good deal of time (with the excuse that it was a game), fingers interlaced and all haha

Since I was feeling pretty good about my chances, I said "hey, you've never seen my bedroom, have you?" and off we go. I show her around, then I go in for the kiss... she pushes me away saying "no". It wasn't odd or anything, we just returned to the living room and continued to party.

Now, what confuses me is that everyone later told me they saw her looking at me with "those eyes". I did managed to see that was looking at me all the fucking time, even when I was talking to someone else.

Some background: I'm 21, she's 18. I wouldn't call her a HB... she's pretty cute, doesn't have an amazing body, but has the smarts and plus she's a pretty interesting girl to me. And she's also kinda shy. We've being going out together (with friends) for some days now.

So... what would you guys think happened here?

Cheers!

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Hey man, here's a few thoughts from my side...

first, when you're with a target that doesn't drink, you should refrain from drinking or keep it low... otherwise you will get ahead of yourself while she's still her inhibited self...

second, you must not have been getting enough kino, or tested for compliance... she was obviously not enough into you for the kiss...

third, getting her to your bedroom must have triggered the wrong signals... you have to admit it's not the one of smoothest moves possible... she knew what you had in mind and rejected your advances on the spot...

Bottom line, work more on the attraction and comfort before going into seduction... and don't let her eyes fool you... some people do it w/o even noticing... it's called "bedroom eyes"... but it's not an invitation to get her to the bedroom...

I think it's not really an issue of attraction, more likely to be the comfort that was missing. Out of nowhere you mention to show her your bedroom and this is pretty blunt. I like that you were pushing for it, it's definitely a good thing. I think she also didn't mind that much, because as you have said, things weren't too much awkward after it. So to me, this basically means that she was just not ready yet. You said she was pretty shy, and the thing with shy girls is that they are really easy if you really put the effort into getting to know them. Because most guys don't care about shy girls, they just want to fuck ASAP. So I suggest you set up a real date, not just getting drunk on some party, and really put the effort into getting to know her, before you go in for the close again.

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@Redlight, right on the money! Thinking back, it could have gone way smoother, but I had the Jager in me haha

@In$tinct, that really makes sense. I was already thinking of taking her to the mall or something, getting to know her better.

One thing that intrigued me though... later during that party, she was speaking with the birthday guy, and he's pretty open about feelings and that kind of stuff... and he told me she told him that she "felt like she didn't live up to our reputation, that she sometimes feels inferior to us" (me and my mate are pretty popular in our circle of friends, always throwing the best parties, etc etc). What could that possibly mean?

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"What we're doing is so wrong, and what you're wearing is so right (it's so tight!). But I've never felt better, so I'm going out to get her and I don't care what set of wheels I steal to get there."

It means exactly what she said. There is no reason to search for a twisted unreasonable cause for everything a woman says.

Basically to her, you seem like you're the dope party guys. Always surrounded by people, always enjoying yourselves, being popular. And she feels like she's sometimes out of this context. It's simply peer pressure. It is a good thing actually, and it plays into your hands perfectly. She feels like you're too much for her, I think this was further validated by the fact that you were trying to kiss her so early on. But show her that you have another, more patient, deeper, and more self-concious side, and I think that then all that's left to do is to escalate.

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