people tell me how im not mature because i don't want to be in a relationship, but in reality my main reasons are because im young AND BECAUSE THERE'S NO ACTUAL POINT....i've noticed (atleast here) that a woman will have sex with you, treat you special, buy you stuff, and love you without being in a relationship......my friend who basically downs me because he's in love but im single, always complain about how bitchy his girl is, how he want his wife to be a certain way but she's not, and he wants his wife to look but she's not....im just confused because my other friend has multiple girls who all do stuff for him, who all buy him stuff, who all make him feel special, and he doesn't have to worry about them being faithful or about them doing wrong....

so my question is what's the point...i understand if you find someone who is basically perfect for you but why settle if these women will do anything without being in a relationship, why search for love?

i believe every man should settle down but when he finds somebody he's truly happy with...but so ,many people i know get in relationships and struggle or are completely whipped

i know this is stupid but i just want to know what im missing....and yes i know im immature im old (20 years old) and need to get this mindset out my head

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie

Unless YOU want to be in a relationship... You shouldn't be in a relationship.

I had the same way of thinking as you do for a very long time. Eventually, the sex doesn't mean as much to you. My girlfriend is much more than a hole for me to blow my load into. She's more of a team mate in life for me. I love her for that... When we first started "dating" I wasn't even looking for "love." She started proving herself to me how great of a team mate she could be and that was what made me realize that I love her. I was fucking 3 other girls on a regular basis when we originally started dating. They were all buying me shit and having sex with me whenever I wanted. She proved to me that she was better than a fuck buddy.

Just keep doing you man. You be the one to determine whether or not you want a relationship. Some day, once you're really the strongest version of yourself, you'll probably want a girl who's equally as "strong" as you are.

amazing advice...i forgot about the teammate thing....how old were you when you met her?

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie

I am in the same position as you. I feel like I can have more fun and freedom from being single than if I was in a relationship. I feel relationships complicate things. Sometimes they become too personal and I don't like them any more.

If you don't like them and are happy with where you are, why would you change? Don't over think this, because someone else put you down for being single. You said it yourself he sounds miserable.

Your time will come for when you find the person really worth dating, but in the mean time do what makes you happier.

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PUSSY, MONEY, WEED.

It sounds to me like you are doing just fine

Your friends are trying to give you advice that has not made them happy?
Why? to justify their own unhappy lifestyles and make it "normal" ?

I recommend only taking advice from people who are happy with the area of life they are giving you advice on, and are giving you advice on how they became happy in that area

there is no need to change your mindset,
wait until you find that special girl who changes your mindset for you because you are so fascinated by her you can't help asking questions and know you want to commit to her

the added bonus will be that when you do get in a relationship you will have had plenty of other experience and won't wonder "what if..."

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those who say it can't be done should get the fuck out the way of those doing it

There are lots of benefits to being poly-amorous but as Majikal said above, it can get old. A relationship can be a lot more fulfilling if you are with the right person.

I have had both mentalities. I have been cynical about relationships, and then I have met girls that are definite relationship material. The real extra benefit of a relationship is the security that it provides, and when you get older, it becomes more appealing due to social proof... other people getting married, therefore I should too.