SETUP: I'm 23 and she's 19. Okay So I was talking to this girl for 4 months and everything was quite perfect. She slept at my place all the time and we were getting to know each other and enjoying each other's company.

WHERE IT WENT WRONG: She started acting distant (not making me a priority) and I confronted her about it. She said that she didn't want to tell me because it'd ruin things but she met up with someone from the past that she ended on bad terms and that seeing that person made her realize she's not over him yet. I said okay and that it was over then she said that guy moved away and was only visiting and she won't ever see him again. She said she didnt hook up with him because she really liked me. Then she told me she wasn't looking for anything serious with anybody. I said I didnt see the point and walked away. i think i gave her too much attention and became no longer a challenge is the truth.

WHERE WE CAME TO CONTACT AGAIN(saturday): I wasn't even thinking about her or anything then she showed up at a party I was at. Seeing her made me realize I do have feelings for the girl. She kept trying to talk to me and I acted indifferent. I talked to other girls then when she was leaving I went to say bye to her she was rude and told me to walk away. (reaction to me talking/flirting with other girls). She called twice right after she left and texted me asking me if i was still at the party. I said yes and she said nvm then. (monday) I hit her up and she came over. She kissed me first and was all over me. Gave me head then when we went to have sex she said she didnt think it was a good idea (she was already naked on me) even though thats fucked up I acted like it was no biggie.(Next monday) We hung out and I kissed her first... (Weds) Saw her at church then dropped her off. Texted her when I got home and said I didnt see the point on being like that if it was going anywhere. (mistake)She said that for her it was over when it was over. (even though she was all over me) Didnt talk for 2 weeks then she started snapchatting me again which then escalated to text.

(SUNDAY TWO WEEKS LATER) I text her and ask her if shes busy on monday. She says no and to text her after I got out of class. I text her after school and she asks if I wanted to hang out. I said I wanted to do something spontaneous. She asks If i wanna go out to dinner than to the drive in and bring wine. I said it sounded really good and she said she was trying to be creative for our date. (she said it was over when it was over wtf) We went to dinner then decided to go to the beach at night watch the stars and drink wine. We got there and it was really nice and she said she hoped i didnt do that with other girls. It was amazing but we left because it started raining. I asked her if she wanted me to drop her off and she said we could go to my house finish the wine. We went to my house and watched a movie and i tried to have sex. She said she was on her period and that she didnt want to anyway. I told her she used to be more fun before and she said that was when I liked u then said just kidding if Im still here. I dropped her off and she tried to bring it all up and said she still didnt want a relationship.

WHERE WE ARE NOW: she texted me after i dropped her off and said it was perfect and said thanks.I told her i had fun too and lets do it again in a month. (she laughed) So now she wont text me and I also dont wanna give her attention like i was before(which is what i think ruined it in the first place). We snapchat each other and thats about it. I'll probably hit her up in another week to hangout as we're both rly busy and only have mondays and weds off. But i dont wanna keep playing this game to try to make it like it was before when she really liked me and hit me up everyday. Should I let it go or keep playing these cards?

PS. I see her every wednesday at church.

thanks!

anyone? I know its a lot to read :/

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Up to you. What do you want with this girl?

Ask her out, let her know your intentions. If she's doesn't want to have sex with you on the next date, that's a red flag.

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I could just next her like i usually do but this is more about me learning to turn things around and getting the ball in my court and being back in control. I think letting her know my intentions is stupid as she already knows I might or might not still have feelings for her!! Attention drove her away and keeping my distance has been working except I dont know what to do next to get her to start investing and making moves....

Let's be honest, you're in a fucked up situation. And it has little to do with you. This is her problem. She saw her ex and fucked it all up. You didn't show her too much attention, it wasn't your fault. From what you wrote she is pretty much entirely responsible for this clusterfuck.

At one point you will have to decide how much you will tolerate. I'd go game other girls because there is no guarantee here that she will truly commit to you. Think about it, would you trust this girl in a long term relationship? when she still has feelings for some other dude?

Fuck this situation man, you're being a little doll she can play with. Not that she's doing it consciously, but her mixed feelings for everything are a signal that this girl is not relationship material right now.

Like i said before... I dont look for a relationship with her and i know i could easily get with other girls and I do... I never stopped seeing other girls while i was talking to her... its all about turning this around just to say i did it... I wanna get her to the point where she wants a relationship with me and i'll just keep booty calling her... lol

Why? For what purpose? Reevaluate your reasoning here.