I posted a thread about this earlier, but thought it might be helpful to make a more specific one on how to recover. Here's my situation. I've been seeing this girl things were good then like I said in other threads our last date ended kinda awkwardly when I was sick. I've played it cool haven't been needy at all, but the last few convos I had with her the things I did and said I viewed as leading, but looking back they could be viewed as trying to hard. Example I made what I meant to be a nice gesture, and said if she was gonna be around I'd bring her some chicken soup. (She's sick) no reply. So once I figured things out asked a couple friends got some advice on here I realized ya maybe that did seem try hard, so I stepped away. My theory is give it some time if she saw me as trying hard/needy and I chase right now. Thatll only prove her right. If I step back, and don't chase she could think oh maybe I was wrong maybe he was just making a nice gesture. Now I've got my abundance mentality back I've got 3 dates lined up for this weekend. I hope things work out with this girl, but I'm not gonna oneitis myself. My question is how long should I wait to re establish contact? I'm thinking a week then send a simple, but properly worded text along the lines of hey what's new and exciting in your world?? Then once convo is rolling move into a phone call. Just my opinion though. As always any advice is appreciated thanks!!

My only advice is not to wait too long... the more time passes since you last talked, the lesser connection you share with her... and you don't want to appear like you just remembered her out of the blue... btw, the chicken soup routine is not bad...

I quote you "I hope things work out with this girl, but I'm not gonna oneitis myself". I thinks this is a contradiction here.
Would have been better saying "I have oneitis therefore I hope things work out". That's the case with you in my opinion. Since this is not the first thread I saw about this girl.
"I don't care if things work out with this girl because I don't have oneitis" - this thought is what you should have.
My advice - hit the gym

Cool mate thanks for the advice! I was thinking 5 days its been 2. I didn't think the soup routine was bad actually a friend of mine that's a girl gave me that idea. Only problem was I used it spark up a convo that was dying out . Other factors to consider to is she's sick,has family problems, and is swamped at work. Even though our last convo didn't go how I would have liked up until my last txt she was sending me smiley faces lol, haha, and responding well to teasing. I'm not reading into it I'm just being aware of what's going on.

True ya I could have worded it differently. I've been doing things to keep my mind occupied.