So I was in this rather trendy restaurant having lunch with a friend. Since it is a rather high end place where everyone dress up a little bit and really keep it to themselves and talking really quietly, so you can imagine it is not the most sociable place in the world. Then I noticed that there was a HB7 sitting not very far from us, having lunch alone. I was a bit intrigued by the fact that she was eating along, and decided to give it a go even. We both agreed that this is not the most desirable place to open her on the spot, so I grabbed a paper wrote down my name and email. Just before she was leaving, I walked over and said hi with a big smile. She smiled back and said hi. And then I said "I know this may seem a little strange, but I just want you to have this." while handing her the piece of paper, then I just walked back.

After I sat back down, I saw her leaving without even looking over my way, then I realised it probably didnt work.

What do you guys think of the situation? What would you have done otherwise?

Thanks in advance.

Nothing is more useless than giving your number to a random girl without having built any attraction, she knows nothing about you why would she ever want to call you or email you ?

You need at least a tiny bit of a connection in order for her to want to know more about you, and more importantly in order for her to want to know more about you, she needs to know something about you.

You would be much better off trying to talk to her, even if it's for a minute, even if it's just a joke that would intrigue her and make her want to talk to that guy who approached her but didn't stick around annoyingly.

Then I guess the email thing makes sense, but if you could just walk up to girls and hand them pieces of paper with your number on it we wouldn't bother learning all that stuff we're learning : )

I can second that the giving of ones number without building attraction does not work. Last year a cute new transfer came into our high school.I had a few conversations with her which just consisted of me asking her about herself then I put a piece of paper in her book bag with my number on it. needless to say I have not talked to her since considering it made me come off as creepy sometimes you gotta learn the hard way though.

The only time this could work consistently would be in a situation where talking is not allowed at all like a reading room on a college campus or something. If there is any opportunity to talk, talk.

The problem is that what one should do in this case. Do you think if it is socially acceptable to go to someone else's table and start a conversation in a restaurant like this? What would be the appropriate opening in this case?

Thanks

Many ways to open any situation, but one way could be to go to her table, casually and cooly pull out the chair across from her, and while sitting down say something in a very comfortable, non-loud manner like "don't mind me, I'm going to borrow this chair, gotta leave in about 30 seconds to get to a meeting but I just wanted to come over and blah blah blah."

The reason you would want to sit down across from her and not stand is..

1. So the whole restaurant doesn't turn its collective eyes to you while you are on stage trying to pick up this girl. Sitting down in a calm manner would have everyone who notices thinking you know the girl. Usually the surrounding crowd doesn't matter in the least but in a high-end restaurant things such as this can be sensitive.
2. So you can be on the same eye contact level as her.
3. It's somewhat of a ballsy move which she may likely appreciate.

Great advise as always, Oceanx. Highly appreciate it.