Greetings, again!


I have a ton of questions so bare with me while I flesh them out

Background:
I've gone on two dates with this girl. We met for some coffee on date 1. Then over a week later (I was busy), I took her to a sporting event (today). The extent of our intimacy has been making out because I really haven't had the opportunity to advance. If this was a girl I did not see myself long term with, date 3 would be a movie at my place where I bang her. I have too much respect for her to pull that...but at the same time, I don't want her to think I am afraid of the pussy and become disinterested.

Since our 2nd date was today when is a good time for date 3? There is a christmas party at my friends house I would like her to go to.

How weird would it be for her for me to take her there after only going on 2 (maybe 3) dates...especially without having done anything too intimate? Is it too soon?

Should I plan date 3 Thursday? She always talks about how she is a good cook...would it be wise to see if she would cook or something Thursday this way we can get more intimate?

Is it weird that, while I would love to have sex with her, that I want to hold off? I have commitment issues and I feel like having sex with her might lead me to jump ship which I've done quite often.

Don't be afraid to sleep with her out of respect. If it were me, I'd hold off on introducing to friends until we've slept together. But girls are all different. Some girls may feel more comfortable to sleep with you after hanging with your friends and some may think it's moving too fast. I'd say more intimate one on one time is better for the 3rd date. I'd got for the dinner and sex.

Thanks for advice.

I can tell she is pretty a pretty conservative girl...should that play a role?

No. It doesn't.

About the sex thing, you can still invite her to your place for a movie night (would be advised for a 3rd date), make out, dry hump her heavily and don't pull it. Not as in rejecting to have sex with her, but let her decide how far she wants to go at that point. I did that with my last girlfriend before we got together ( a solid 10 by the way).
She said: "Wow, you aren't pushing me at all" with this glance in her eyes, you could tell she respected me so much for this. Then a few dates later, at my place again, was during the day casual stuff we just did some university stuff as I recall it. She said:"You know, sometimes I think you don't think that I'm sexy" with this innocent longing eyes, I just grabbed her threw her at my bed and loved her.
You see she gave me the cue, "now I'm ready".

But seriously brother, it's your choice and of course it's not a bad thing to have sex with her on the 3rd if you want to.

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Co-sign Darth here.

The key to building this sexual tension is to show interest while supplementing it with restrain.

Remember 40 days 40 nights when he couldn't rub one out for a month? Then the girlfriend met up with him, was declined sex, then proceeded to rape him because she thought it was "so hot" that he said no.

That's not as extreme as it sounds, minus the ropes on bed...unless you're into that.

But "power" and "control" are things that women value and in this instance, the ability to be confident yet have restraint is a great combination to soil her panties.

Just slow trickle it with purpose and confidence, and like Darth said, wait for the moment she relinquishes pride a little bit and then man-pipe her to Bolivian (Mike Tyson quote).

Just remember to also add kino to get her a bit more comfortable with the idea of touching you. This will go a long way in getting her to give you the green light.

Good luck!

Okay, I will try to make date 3 happen...but should I invite to her to friend's house the day after?

Question for you... where and how did you get it in your head that letting someone know that you want to have sex with them is AT ALL disrespectful????

That's more of a COMPLIMENT dude.

Stop being such a pussy and make it happen. This girl is probably bored out of her fucking mind waiting for you to actually fuck her brains out. Or, she's fucking someone else and doesn't mind the free attention you are giving her. Either way, figure out where you stand.