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the point is to get her to associate being 15 minutes late (her reasoning was she left 10 min early then realized she needed gas, she wasn't getting caught up with something legitimate) with waiting HERSELF.
Actions--------->consequences
so next time she decides to leave too late from her house, in the back of her head she knows she'll be waiting for me if she chooses to do so
Also, we still bang when this happens, she calls me an ass, laughs, and she talked to her friend about it and the friend said "I would have done what he does"
Lheart, I suspect this is why your gf is "shit testing" you as you said in the other thread. This payback dynamic is cute, but not good. If her reasons are legitimate, and she is not playing around, what will it accomplish? If you believe her, then let's say next time she leaves early and realizes she needs gas again. Is she going to not get gas because she knows she will be waiting? If she is lying, then that is another issue.
Has she learned from your strategy, or has she continued to be late? If it has stopped, then fine. If not it's wrong and isn't accomplishing anything. She is not a dog and this is an obvious punishment dynamic. She learns that her actions (being late) leads to consequences (her waiting). But it probably doesn't end there. Now your actions (making her wait) will lead to consequences. I could be wrong. But if you're gf is playing games as you say, maybe look at what games you are playing with her too.
Her reasons were not legit man. She leaves her house at like 5:05 when we agreed to meet at 5:15(she lives about 20 min away). Also, when she said I was impatient and couldn't wait, she also smiled and said she was only 5 minutes late, when she got to my house at 5:31. She then tried to say she isn't a punctual person for work, ect, but it is all bullshit. All she is doing is sitting at her house then coming to mine
And we do end up having sex that same day, planned a vacation, and watched some tv in peace. and maybe she put up some resistance the first time we did this, but certainly not now. I fail to see how this would encourage her to test me in other ways to push my boundaries. If anything, this shows her I have self respect