My situation:

-Girl exclaims: "your an asshole!" every time I'm with her (aka I'm doing it right)
-I tease her and neg her
-She says the sex is the best I've ever had, I'm the only one to make her O in her life including herself
-She does my laundry, pays for dinner, brings me food sometimes
-Knows that other girls look at me
-Describes me as being borderline "delusional in my confidence lol"
-Feels like she is annoying because she is the one who initiates sex all the time
-Decide all the dates locations but compromise

BUT!!!!!

I am dominant in bed and talk dirty to her, spank her, ect.... but she says I word things so well that she feels her comments might come off as silly in response. She also says she wants me to trust her more in bed to control things instead of me deciding what positions, where, ect. we have it. She also tends to not get as turned on when I initiate, even though she claims otherwise. She swallows because I like it, gives head for the same reason, but doesn't enjoy it she says. I will say things like "I own this" and sometimes she will say yes you do, but other times she will be like "well whose dick is that?"....she says some submissive things here and there, but much of the time it seems like she wants to keep her image of a strong woman when I force the issue

She is a free thinker hippy type, probably believes in equality in realtionships, and her mom wears the pants in her parent's marriage. She is used to putting her dad down and also is extremely bully-like to guys. She shit tests alot.

Im into the whole D/s thing too, man.

My suggestion would to be a little bit less of an asshole (yet dont fail her shit tests), and just meet her halfway mentally. Be understanding, and communicative, and kind. Make her feel comfortable in letting go of that stubborn side. Maybe she holds back because she doesnt really want to completely lay down (figuratively) to a guy who she thinks is a bit of a dick (even though it turns her on). Know what I mean? Brainwash her...make her think like you.

Im not knocking your game in anyway at all, thats just how I do it. There are many different D/s dynamics, as Im sure you know. I personally am more of a Daddy Dom--care of the mind, not abuse of the body (though I totally ravish them, and spank them, and talk down to them at the right times...I too am a dick, but Im also very tender when needed).

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