Hi I used to be on here a lot more. Currently I have a re occurring theme in my life. I don't attract the kind of girls that I want. I do ok getting laid. But that's just it. I'm sober now 6 months. Is there a time lag on attraction. Maybe my timing is off. I feel that way. I'm not totally comfortable doing this sober all the time. I do see the benifits of being in the moment. Sometimes I get to cought up in the outcome I want to happen. I look good and I'm honest. But some women scare away when I escalate the process. Rejection is getting easier to deal with. I'm 30 and I'm just getting my own place to live at. Any good advice for me to start laying attractive girls above 5??? I take what I get. Then the sex is not as crazy as I want it also. I try to take control but women are insecure. It kind of bugs me out. I got a provider mentality. I know it. Blah!! Help me out. Ideas??

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This is more of a general topic, I suggest posting it there.
To answer your question, you need some standards bro. Sleeping with anything in a skirt is just asking for trouble.

Also work on your inner game. Check out that board as well.

Al

Well I have experience in this community. And I have worked on general pick up as well as inner game the amp program, nlp, meditation, canned and natural game. I feel like I come to a different growth point. Should getting laid always be the goal? I have my share of sluts and single moms. Hippie chicks as well as bar flys. I am confident with what I present, which has become modest through a recent action of sobriety. So I toned it down. I am not so cock sure anymore cause I don't like being that guy. I'm more laid back and presentable. I am mysterious and interesting. I can laugh and have fun. I'm sure of my good qualities. I am getting a hobby photo taking I'm buying a good camera. I am moving forward in life. I get a lot of complainers. Does anyone else have this issue? Women who always look at the bad. Perhaps because I'm not happy with them. They are bitchy. Maybe I don't think I deserve anything above a 6? I feel congruent, I am working on being under the radar. I can rant on. But this seems like a issue of a time lag in growth because of personal changes in my life. The question is, is this normal? Or any feedback is cool. Always.

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If you are a healthy human being, changing your goals to up the standards of your life is the norm. The goal of pickup for me personally is to find that one person who can make me happy for the rest of my life. Sleeping around is fun, but rarely fulfilling in the long term.
If you are not happy where you are or the quality of women you are attracting, take a second look at your standards and the quality of life you are seeking. More precise definition of what really makes you happy with your mate will increase your chances of finding that woman.
You know you are growing and there is no reason to settle now.

Al

Yes thanks Al. I agree what u say about standards and not setteling for someone. This kind of action results in desaster. Like most guru's I would like to find that women who is ideal. I take issue with one night stands. I think this may not help me. Regardless of the girl if I sleep with her once I try to do it again. The first goal is 3 regulars. Then to choose one out of the 3 for a relationship. I find this attainable for me. I have been better at saying what I want. Also better at dumping girls. Still not ideally attracive tho. If I get in a conversation great I can keep it up. Useually this is my hangup. I need to approach more and mellow out. Def want higher quality women around me. Thx

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