Hey. About a 6 weeks ago, the company I work in had a very large consolidation for the workers - about 500-700 people. I met a cute girl and had a nice 10-15 minute chat with her there - that started by me offering her a hat I had nothing to do with. I didn't have any sexual intent. I didn't even ask for her name.

By coincidence, I met her at a local Rock/Metal bar just three days ago. It was in the restroom. She looked familiar, so I asked her: "Hey, you look familiar.. Could we have met at work?" "I don't think so" she said, followed by "Oh wait, were you at this consolidation?" I answered "Yup, what's you're name?" She told me her name, smiling, and we shook hands. Then she said "look me up the..." and I immedietly knew she was talking about our company's digital phonebook, where you write one's name and it tells you all the details about them. She basically asked me to call her. I said "cool" and went back to my friend (the guy I went there with). I was thinking she's quite cute and I want to ask her out on that same bar to get to know her a bit, and of course, go to her place later on.

In Friday I'll need to wake up at 7 AM, and later on that day I'm flying for vacation. Should I call her and ask her out on Thursday night, while the iron is still hot, or would that be risky and I'd be better off calling her like 15 days later, once I return? I'm pretty sure she'll go out with me, our conversations have been quite well until now. And the coincidence of meeting her again helps too.

Man, no doubt about it, strike while the iron is hot... God knows what can happen in 15 days... at least if you're going out with her she will a) remember for sure who you are, b) be more receptive to your escalation... Had the same situation with a target that I went out with right before leaving for a week long business trip, we ended up making out like crazy in the taxi and first night after my return... f-close... even if you can't synchronise for a date on Thu, she will at least appreciate your initiative... anyway, make sure to keep the interest while away via phone or text... good luck!

Definitely try to schedule something before you leave. DHV for you for traveling.

About kissing her: How does it practically work? Say we went out and had a great time - how do I get in a situation where I actually kiss her? Would whispering something like "I want to kiss you", and then staring at her and slowly moving forward do the job? And when should it occur - at the bar, or once we leave?

About logistics - say she wants to come home with me. I reckon she wouldn't just say so. So how is it done? Say we've just kissed, would saying something like "wanna go to my place?" do the job? Or is it too blunt? Perhaps something like "I have an amazing dog, wanna come over and see him" would work better?

It's just that I've never done this before so I don't know how is it all done. I used to have serious inner-game problems, and most of them are gone thanks to a professional coach I started meeting.

Update:

So I called her today at around 1 PM and we chatted for 6 minutes. I'm going to move into her division, and so at one part she said "it's so fun that you're coming over to our division, you're going to have a great time with us!". She also said we can chat at out work's chat. Anyway, 6 minutes and a few seconds later she said that something came up at work and that she has to go, and we hung up. So I didn't really have a chance (or possibly, the guts) to ask her out.

However, I called her again specifically for that reason at 4 PM. She didn't answer, nor did she return my call - it has been an hour since. How should I proceed?

Hey man, let's have a look at your questions...

[About kissing her: How does it practically work? Say we went out and had a great time - how do I get in a situation where I actually kiss her? Would whispering something like "I want to kiss you", and then staring at her and slowly moving forward do the job? And when should it occur - at the bar, or once we leave?]

There are several kiss close tactics that you can use... I will not go into specifics (there are plenty on the PUA Forum) just don't make a big deal out of it, avoid the big kiss at the end of the date (Hollywood crappy movie style) and work it into your general escalation plan...

[About logistics - say she wants to come home with me. I reckon she wouldn't just say so. So how is it done? Say we've just kissed, would saying something like "wanna go to my place?" do the job? Or is it too blunt? Perhaps something like "I have an amazing dog, wanna come over and see him" would work better?]

I don't discuss with my targets about going to my place... see my post "Successful closing technique" of some two weeks ago... nor do I use some excuses to get them over... do it from a masculine place where you bring her over to enjoy her company and worry not about her reaction...

[So I called her today at around 1 PM and we chatted for 6 minutes. I'm going to move into her division, and so at one part she said "it's so fun that you're coming over to our division, you're going to have a great time with us!". She also said we can chat at out work's chat. Anyway, 6 minutes and a few seconds later she said that something came up at work and that she has to go, and we hung up. So I didn't really have a chance (or possibly, the guts) to ask her out.]

You should have worked the meet up in your conversation... beware of becoming "just a friend" with this whole "you're going to have a great time with us" if you escalate and she brings up the LJBF, make it clear to her that you, as a man, do not accept to be just friends with a woman you are very attracted to... Work out the guts to ask her, what is the worst thing that could happen?

[However, I called her again specifically for that reason at 4 PM. She didn't answer, nor did she return my call - it has been an hour since. How should I proceed?]

Did you call her landline or cell? does she know who called her? Did you tell her you are leaving for two weeks? A chick may postpone calling you under the thinking "I'll call him tomorrow" but when she knows you are leaving for two weeks may make the extra effort...

I called her cell. She would know who called her if she saved my number into her contacts, so can't be sure. And yes, she knows I'm flying for two weeks in a few days. I know I should've worked on the meeting at my first call, but I was nervous. Than I (figuratively) slapped myself for that, but I'm prepared now. No biggie.

Oh, and about the part where I'm bringing her home: I need to know exactly what to say, so I can practice the situation in my imagination. It helps a lot. So, when the tension is high, something like a confident "let's go to my place." should do the job?

OK, have a look at this post of mine... it explains a situation where you need not say much about where you are going and why... confidence when pulling this stunt is very important... In any case, do not ask her "would you like to go to my place?", that would give her both time to think about what you said and the opportunity to say "NO"... you want her to understand what you mean but not to have to give you an answer...

successful-closing-technique-vt171797.html

Let me know what happened... Good luck!

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Seems to be a great technique, however, can't always be used. For example, I usually drive to the bar, park there, drink and enjoy, and then take a cab and go home. The next day someone drives me to my car, and I drive it home. Where I live, drivers under the age of 25 aren't alowed to drink even one sip of a beer. If you're caught, your license will automatically be suspended two months, and possibly many more months depending on the trial.

Long story short - tomorrow I'll call her again. From my cell to her cell, or from my landline to hers?

Yeap, you should not play with alcohol and driving... But you could keep in mind that the body can break down 20ml of pure alcohol per hour, meaning that one 50 ml glass of whiskey will be completely gone from your system within one hour from drinking it... I have tried it a few times and always worked... I mean being stopped by the cops, being breathalysed and ZERO alcohol... Should hydrate plentifully and this can't fail... or you could stick to energy drinks or water and drive... consider the car as your portable bedroom...

Coming back to your situation, I have pulled a chick that I work with from a nightclub in a taxi, simply giving the driver my address. She said nothing, we arrived at my place, went up without talking about where, why and what, had sex and then called her a taxi to go home... You could try that, success lies in the delivery... confidence will get her to follow you without asking any questions...

And finally, make the call cell to cell, it's more personal and she can take the call to the corridor instead of being tied to the desk...

ALWAYS strike when the iron is hot. In 2 weeks she'll kind of forget about the interaction. Good thing is she works in your division so she'll be seeing you more... correct? Take advantage of it and when you get your opportunity don't hesitate at all. Don't let petty fear get in the way of your success. You got this man.

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I agree with what's posted above. To relax yourself if you take her out, think of this girl as practice. Don't get down on yourself for anything, just relax and go with it. Don't forget to playfully kino escalate and kiss during the date. If things are going well and you feel like going for the kiss, look up Mystery's "would you like to kiss me" sequence.