So with this girl, I can't tell if she does this because she thinks I do the same thing with my DHV stories, but it's annoying as hell. I really want to f-close but I wouldn't mind keeping her around if she could open up and stop with the childish jealousy games. We're both in college. We hardly ever hang out even though I make efforts to most of the time, and when I don't, she does, but usually when she does I'm busy but literally EVERY time I make plans, she flakes or can't make it anymore. I know she's interested because she ALWAYS (100% of the time) texts me first. She jokes about how our kids are gonna be. She's already established that she likes me. But this jealousy thing will be shortly after a convo like that. She does this often, but I'm going to give the most recent example:

(Around 8:00-8:30)
Her: They have me listening to justin bieber (she hates him)
Me: What song?
Her: All that matters
Me: Never heard of it but since it's bieber it can't be good. Lol
Her: They're guys. They're horny as usual
Me: Come over tonight (I sent this because we don't hang out often and we're basically on the same campus - just got back from break. I wanted to see her, but I sent this with no real intentions of her coming over)

(Around 1:00am)
Her: I just got my phone back lol
Me: (No response)

I'm not sure if I plan on responding at all to be honest. I feel disrespected and I really want to call her out on it and tell her that me and her talking is a waste of time, but it was nice while it lasted. But it seems like that's the AFC way to go about handling this situation and we've been talking for some months now so I really didn't want to just cut her off, but I will if that's the only option. The main problem here is not even her trying to make me jealous, it's the fact that she makes time to hang out with other guys but when I wanna hang out, it never happens. IMPORTANT: A lot of me feels like she's making these stories up, but even if she is, it's still a problem.

What do I do here? Help me out guys!

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This girl is playing you man.

That's all I needed was an outside opinion, thanks man.

So there's no way to flip this or still fuck her? She has a really soft ass compared to other girls. lol but if not, how should I break it off? Just stop responding to her texts? I might run into her on campus and it would be awkward if I just straight up ignore her texts and calls.

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I mean... you can still fuck her. But don't be surprised if she starts asking you for stuff. Saying she needs money... all that shit. I've dealt with girls like this... The headache isn't worth the pussy.

My guess is all the other shit she's been telling you about other guys is true. My advice is to strap up the Nikes and run as fast as you can from this girl lol

Gotcha. I wish we could talk more about your experience with this type of girl because I've never dealt with a girl like this before (I'm still young). I wouldn't really care if she started asking me for money and stuff, because I'm in college just like her and chances are she has more money than me anyways. lol I don't have a car so she can't ask for rides, etc. So if that's what u meant by her playing me, I could care less about her asking me for stuff.

So would a freeze out work right now? Or would it just end whatever we have? Because that's what's underway right now. Also, should I comment on the text she sent me last night, before I freeze out? Or ask why she let somebody else have her phone for that long, before the freezeout? Or should I just let that go completely and not bring it up at all before the freezeout? Girls at my age shouldn't be this complicating. lol

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You're a distraction to this girl. She's probably got 10 other guys she's doing exactly the same shit with...

The type of girl Majikal is talking about - in my experience - is exactly like this... they'll send exactly the same messages to every guy in their contacts to see who'll bite.

She stopped replying to you for a couple hours and look - you're all twisted up about it.

Majikal = completely right... just drop her. Why reply at all? Run.

I wasn't twisted up, just knew that it wasn't acceptable behavior. I would've texted her back if it got to me that bad. To be honest, I just want her around as a fuck buddy, I'm fucking other girls so I could care less who else she's fucking. If you guys wouldn't recommend it, I'll cut her off with no problem, but if it wouldn't be a problem to keep her around as a FWB that's what I'm asking how to do here.

...but until then, I'm cutting all contact just incase cutting her off is the only option.

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By not getting jealous.


If you recognize the frame why buy into it?

You're right. I haven't bought into it yet unless cutting contact is buying into it but reason being because she can hang with all these other "horny guys" but can't find time to hang with me. Should I stop the no contact and go back in like nothing happened if my goal is to f-close? That's what I'm trying to figure out. How to maximize my chances in this situation.

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She doesn't like you if you haven't fucked her yet. It's college. As Majick and the others said, she probably does this with other guys for attention. Don't entertain her and when she wants to hang out, do it at your dorm and fuck. If she's not meeting up just don't talk to her.

Got it. Lesson learned. So I'll continue the freeze out until she contacts me a few times (IF) and wants to meet up. Thanks to everybody that helped out.

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Square peg square hole. Very simple and linear if Ur out to fuck u really can't care


You're affected by all this, I'm curious to know why

It's my ego. I am out to fuck and I could care less if she's really having sex with these other guys, because I'm having sex with other girls. The difference comes into play when she throws it in my face. In my opinion that's disrespectful and as a man (here's my ego talking) I feel like I can't let her do that without any type of negative consequence because then she's gonna begin to think that it's OK to do that. If it's best to text her and act like nothing happened, then I will. But that's why this thread was made. I'm really not affected as much as you think, I'll sleep like a baby tonight, I promise. lol It's a problem within myself and has nothing to do with her. I'm working on it.

Thanks for the advice but I'm still a little confused on how to move forward. My goal is to fuck her, that's it. Do I continue with the freeze out? Or does that show that I'm affected? Should I text her acting like nothing happened? I keep being told different things by different people. lol I need one last, final answer.

What I've gathered so far though, and how I'm gonna proceed unless I get a different response, is to continue cutting contact until she reaches out to meet up.

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Recognizing its hour ego is a good insight. You've acknowledge it. The ego needs resistance in some form or other to thrive. Ego begets ego even if it means destroying ones self.

How do you get past it? Through presence. That is your salvation.

I'm so confused. So it's ok to act like nothing happened?

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