I teased a girl that she liked twilight. She seemed annoyed and she said I liked twilight better than her.

I just replied:

"Busted. Let's keep it between us."
(no smilies)

I think it shows that I simply don't care what she thinks about me
Could I go on and say I have the dvd collection and have posters in my bedroom?

Wheres the line between showing confidence and carelessness and being someone who has no self respect? :p

were you texting?

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"Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshit in order to be comfortable?"- Mia Wallace

Stupid question, obviously you are. Alright so the line between carelessness and no self respect is basically the difference between you genuinely not caring what she thinks and you trying to comply to whatever she thinks. Its the way you would frame your response to her getting upset at you making fun of her. She retaliates and says "But you like twilight more than me!" Say something back like "Fuck yeah I do, I'm basically Edward Cullen, still doesn't excuse the fact that you like twilight " So you are conceding that you do indeed like twilight but you're still keeping the focus on her. You're keeping it fun. The wrong response would be "Yeah I'm sorry I was making fun of you, Twilight is awesome." That shows that you are just complying with whatever she wants. Bad.

The way you responded was meh. It was somewhere in the middle of the examples I gave. How that comes off is that you care what she thinks (because you probably do) but you're trying really hard not to care. Also it's really hard to convey the tone that you want through text. So, by saying "Busted, Let's keep that between us." with no emoticons or indications for what you were going for, it could come off as you being insecure about you liking twilight. Always make sure the tone of your texting is really easy to get or else you'll get burned and have to explain what you meant and it's shit.

If you want to keep going on this twilight thread (and bro c'mon, twilight? haha) then yeah it would be cool to amp up your own fanaticism to legendary levels. Exaggerate the hell out of it. But please for the love of god make it funny and understandable. Also if you already have comfort with this girl switch to sex talk as soon as possible. That's really all texting is good for. If you want to talk about twilight, talk about twilight in person over coffee.

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"Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshit in order to be comfortable?"- Mia Wallace

Hehe thanks. We know each other and she knows I don't like twilight. I've teased her about that before. And we have made out twice in the past few years.

" Also if you already have comfort with this girl switch to sex talk as soon as possible."

Yeah I got the impression from the other guys on here that I should escelate towards sex in person not over text. Especially not this girl. I tried that and she freaked out, had comfort built and all that. I went too far. Really too far. Bathtub, shower talk, going to her place, really needy/creepy stuff. I forgot to man up and actually meet her again. I probably made myself freak out by putting the bar too high. No wonder why she did the same.

So after six months with no contact, she contacted me concerning my snapchat username. She said she thought I was a funny "snap friend". I'm now letting her know that sex is not the ONLY thing on the agenda, and not her for that matter. I need to make her chase me first and this chick is cold as ice. Really hard to get.
I was thinking take a beer as "friends"
Also I'm communicating through statuses and snapchat that I've moved on and have a great life. Though she knows I got hurt and I got angry.

I feel like an asshole though negging her and teasing. She simply doesnt respond the way that I want to. And by talking to her in a "normal way" I feel like a nice guy. Any tips on building comfort and trust without beeing needy and nice is welcomed.
I should probably let her go. But it needs to be said I don't contact her often.

Also, I've read there's no such thing as a complete friendzone when you've been somewhat intimate with the girl in the past (ref, relationship rewind)

Went a bit OT here lol.

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Making fun of yourself is cool I find it lightens the mood a bit but only if it's not repetitive.
A couple jokes now and then is sufficient, doing it over and over will start to make you seem insecure.
Just do it in a truly non-caring way, if you're insecure it will show.

Also, about escalating with the girl; I don't believe what you did was wrong just how you did it.
Women are self-conscious of how they are viewed, which you may already know. So to cut to the chase try this.
If you're going to escalate through text (talking dirty, and whatnot) *For ones who are more more reluctant to about sexting*
1. Make sure she is comfortable.
2. Let her know that she's not going to be a public celebrity (contents only stay between you two)
3. Escalate innocently: Flirty and fun
Keep it light and enjoyable then periodically escalate with more intimate (but withheld for teasing purposes) details

That was really helpful. Thanks