Hey, so this might be a bit too long of a read, but have to cover up everything. I'm 19 YO, first year of college, and my only relationship with a girl was when i was 13. Other than that, I got friendzoned by a girl I felt in love with,like 6 months ago, it took me like 7 months to "admit" my feelings for her,so no surprise there. I was a shy geek with many barriers. After a hard deppresion, I decided I have to change, and found out about people like mystery, de angelo, guys from rsd,and many others. Now,after hard work,altough I'm totally a different person, I lack "options" and this really fucks me up when trying to create attraction,and it also makes me outcome dependant. We all know this shouldn't happen. It's not like I have no guts to approach other girls, it's just that I have no time in this period of time, and most importantly, I don't have the social circles required. I'm in an IT based college,full of geeks and really ,really ugly no-life girls. This was the background,now let me tell you about my current status. I know this girl for a year,she was in my class in highschool but we didn't talk much, didn't know much about her besides her name. We started to talk 1 week after college started(that was 2 months ago),went to movies with her,a party,and went out with our common friends. We holded hands,she said she missed me a few times,and shit like this. Used to talk with her on a daily basis,but since a few weeks,she'd avoid me pretending to be studying all day. Saw she's sending kisses and shit on facebook to another guy.
Now, you tell me what to do. I'm outcome dependant cause I have no other options,and I'm sure she knows it. I know I've made a lot of mistakes, but it's not like I don't know stuff, I just don't have the practice. I'd really like some tips about this situation and what I should do next from you guys. I have no doubts that there are a lot of guys here experienced at this shit,and can give solid advices,so here I am. Thank you in advance.

man look im going to be honest, you're young, 1 year younger than me. girls are nitpicky when you really like them (sad but true) seems like when you want to sleep around and do stuff they're in the palms of your hands but whne you like them BAM you're friend zoned....she robably got tired of you for some reason, either you were to nice, or didn't show the confidence or ambition she wants, or yall just didn't share anythign in common...my advice to you is to focus on having fun, and dating/sleeping with alot of women so when you do want a relationship you know how to handle the problems and won't have to worry about cheating

also sounds like you worked on yourself but you still lack the confidence, basically what im saying is you have the guts to talk to a girl but you lack the confidence to believe you can get her which usually shows through body language voice etc, and girls pick up on that. it doesn't mater about the social circle you're in, guys will want to be youre friend when they noticed you get all the women. and time doesn't matter because it takes what 5 minutes to get a girl, if that.....you said you're at a school with alot of ugly girls and stuff well those are practice girls, you have to start from somewhere to build your confidence

now for the outcome dependency, its hard to get out of that, you basically have to learn to liekt hings about people so that you won't only look for the outcome but look for spending time with her....this takes time because yu have to get lout the habit of thinking you only want her for something.....

probably didn't help but i tried lol

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie

you were actually very helpfull,thanks.
so about my improvement, you suggest to start picking up girls from my classes ? as far as i know , social circle game is quite risky. i thought about waiting a bit for my schedule to free up, and go to night clubs. from what i've heard, that's the place for a newbie to start from ?

i honestly think the best place to start is the mall....nightclubs are the place everybody goes to get one night stands and thats hards to do for a newbie, so every girls is going to expect that....but that may just be the night clubs here lol

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie