hi all,
so heres my history of dating

almost non-existent up til high school. had one gf but i was way too damn wussy to take it anywhere. i have some past events in my life that i believe made me a bit more introverted, thought-oriented, and even more depressed, etc. i was a pretty damn withdrawn kid.

as i hit sophomore of college year i finally realized i cant do this anymore, so i basically went out every weekend for a couple years. VAST improvements. most of the pursuing of girls was done at clubs, or some kind of night venue. i even had the balls to approach girls during the day. i actually got laid a good amount, and even at this point in my life ive gotten with girls, some being hot girls i never imagined i could get with when i was younger.

however, i realized a fatal weakness in me...this "gaming" personality is FAKE. Naturally, I dont like to talk much unless its in a manner and topic i like. I dont like conflict. I just am so used to being alone that thats what i like. Seeing as how this is my real personality, the easiest way to get with girls is to go out at night and use that 1-2 hour span of faking this "witty" talk to whichever girls may end up thinking its cute and all that stuff.

lets say we are in everyday life, could it happen? VERY hard...like i said because i dont naturally have a "witty" or talkative personality, i can only fake it for so long before i burn out and refer back to my real self.

so just asking u guys

1) what does a guy like me do? i cant "be myself"...because if i am just myself i feel like its too much of a hassle to have to converse with a girl everyday just to get with her. im at a point in my life where i dont wanna be goin out to clubs and bars so i can get with girls. i am probably more ballsy than the average guy in that i can go up and talk to most girls..but i stopped doing that these days because i know i cant follow thru and close the deal.

2) another fatal flaw i noticed in myself is adversarial banter or conversation. for example, i feel like back-and-forth teasing and or insulting is almost a MUST to consistently get with girls (i am excluding looks, money, car, etc...because those DO affect the game but are moot points). and also, its not even amongst just girls, guys will do this to you all the time to test you when girls are around. cuz im more introverted and dont conflict, i have a natural tendency to let it slide, or if i really have to i will just straight up get pissed at the dude. id rather take a smartass approach and say something back thats clever...perhaps this is more training and practice?

i guess, bottom line is that a naturally introverted and "adverse-to-conflict" personality is one of the biggest hindrances to getting with girls. its funny because you can be completely not shy of approaching people, yet scared to do it because you know eventually you'll screw up as your real, boring personality emerges. this is illustrated GREATLY when suddenly you are surrounded by "naturals" who just innately have the best personality attrributes in em.

what do you guys think? thanks!