Situational. Found myself stuck at this moment before. I can typically leapfrog off most situations and use it as an opener, even the vaguest tie or association a girl might have to me. But cold approach, girl standing in the middle of a room, do you have a go-to 'generic' opener that is reflex action without thinking?

I try to stay away from the cheese-coated "so looks like the party is over here" lines, but is a non-sleazy direct line the best in these moments?

-SilverTonguedFox

Depends on the venue. 'hey u look lonely standing here all by yourself' or 'hey why u standing here all by yourself' etc. Clear your mind and go with whatever fits the environment. 'you come here to the middle of the room to avoid all the noise over there?" or whatever comes to mind. It can be anything. The point as you know is to get talking with her so you can have a little convo. It comes off as more natural than having as you described a 'sleazy' pickup line.

It's not just "what you say in what situation", it's a holistic approach.

If it were me, she would have already seen me - the way I dress, the way I behave, who I talk to, because I make it known from the moment I enter.

So when it comes to the point where she's standing alone and I glance over and see the moment, I already have the confidence to walk over because of the frame I've already set for myself. She will most likely be a little nervous that I've come over. Or if she's an extrovert, she'll be happy/relieved that someone who may be more like herself is going to actually talk to her tonight.

So at that point, what I say is almost irrelevant. But most likely it will be an observation of some sort - for example, something about her choice of clothing/acessories that stands out - she obviously put effort into it, it's nice to see someone noticed, and will be different than what most guys will say eg. you look hot, nice boobs, etc. or if something happened that night worth mentioning. But the bottom line is that I have a confident vibe based on the frame I've been setting earlier, so it really doesn't matter what I say, she will be reacting to my behavior more than anything. And the conversation will go well.


If you walk into a place, shoulders down, and go off to a corner, people will already have formed an opinion of you, and rightly so. And you'll be conscious of this to some extent, so that will affect the way you behave when you approach them.
Having said that, if you were to muster up the confidence and totally contradict that behaviour, that can easily override their initial opinion.

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