After a lot of disappointments I have come to the conclusion that circumstances and life situations just don't want me to have the college experience. I decided to overload the following semester with courses and I am going to be spending a lot (and I mean a lot) of time in the campus Starbucks getting work done and studying. I never got why people said these are the best years of your life and I guess I won't. These were not the best years of my life and I wish I could graduate this semester, in fact if I could I would.

Even though I have talked to a lot of people, been outgoing, developed so much in the coming years (no more insecurities about race and such), and so on, I know that I will never enjoy the social aspect of college which involves making friends with cool guys and hooking up with hot sorority girls. Rather than make myself miserable for it and bother you guys with my consistent rants I have decided to look forward. I just don't have what it takes to get laid a lot in college.

Now I have heard that life after college is rough and lonely. For me, college has just been High School 2.0. The cliquishness of Greek Life along with social proof (which I cannot and will never have here) reigning supreme.

The good things I have heard about life after college is that

1. It is actually easier to meet people because not everyone is as cliquish, sororities and fraternities don't exist in the real world

2. People (including women) judge you based on how you look, how you act, and how you present yourself rather than what Fraternity you are in or what sport you play

3. A lot less pre-selection is involved which means if you have game and are willing to do the approaches you will get laid

So now knowing all that, how can I put myself in a good position for the real world in terms of getting laid a lot?

Is it favorable to move to a big city or are some towns actually better than bigger cities? Tell me about how you have adjusted to life after college.

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Man you are in the U.SA and you are still complaining? i live in a muslim country and you how shit is hard here....night game is non existent almost here but i do try day game and facebook game and since getting into the game my results have improved...i started mass approaching and when you do that no matter how shitty your inner game is one of this chicks you approached will fuck you and from there it will be an upward trend...success breeds confidence and confidence means more pussy..

Why don't you go to college to study. And go outside of college to socialize.

I would die to be able to go back to college. In real life making good friends is not that easy mate trust me.

man, you do whine like a little bitch all the time. Stop whining and do something about it paramount. Trust me, I was in a WAY worse place than you growing up and now I bang women all the time at will. It can be done, but not if you whine like a little crybaby all the time.

To answer your question, big cities are by far the easiest to game, in my opinion.

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You have to take risks in life or you're going to miss out.

Approach more women. If you need confidence VISUALIZE. See yourself doing it then do it. Visualize what succeeding looks like. See the girl in love with you, see the girl kissing you, see yourself fucking her brains out doggy style pulling her hair and palming her ass like a fucking volleyball. Powerful thoughts evoke powerful emotions, now get off yo ass!

Guys in fraternity have social proof, but they also have self-confidence.

Are you in shape? Do you dress stylishly? Do you hold a good conversation? Do you talk about interesting things? These are things you can fix son.

Everyone is insecure. Even the hottest chicks. Everyone is afraid of not being good enough. Everyone is afraid of being disliked but everyone can't deal with it!

Have an ego. See yourself the way you want to be and that will give you confidence to go get it.

Here's a strategy:
1. You have a research project on whether feminism emasculates men. Ask every hot women you see for an opinion.
2. Ask the girl about herself after the opinion. Who she is, where she is from, and what classes she's taking.
3.) Ask her how she feels about things. Get her to reveal as much personal feeling about herself as possible. That will make the connection. Reveal little about yourself that allows her to project fantasies on you.
4.) tell her you like talking to her and arrange to meet up or get her number.

Too easy right?

How am I whining? I said my situation and I have decided to look forward from it. Loved the last part and the part inbetween but the first part, that kind of shitty posting is exclusive to guys like winginmytime.

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It is whingy though Paramount. You might not think it is because you've tried to dress it up, but like I tried to say to you last time (and which you obviously didn't fully understand), it's not the words you say or how you say them, it's your mindset which counts.

You're still saying things like "I don't get why people say it's the best time of your life", and "I've decided that I won't ever succeed at college" etc.

Like I've said to you before, you want to get to a stage where things are just like water off a duck's back. Good or bad, you should just basically be unaffected. You're not unaffected. You're affected by - well, pretty much everything!

Not everything, in fact the one thing I can brag about is I am much better off mentally than I was when I first came here with the race nonsense. Truth is I do feel hopeless about college and I have given up hope of making much out of it. A whiny me would have come in and said "guys guys OMG I am so hopeless, please help me get laid in college, life sucks because I cannot get laid in college, if only I could get laid in college, my life would change if I could get laid in college".

No, right now my mentality is that I have accepted my fate in college and realized there is little I can do. But I refuse to let that make me miserable because I am looking forward to the real world and how to adjust. For now, college is strictly academics for me and I have accepted that. It is too far along and a lot of seniors just want to leave rather than enjoy their time with others and I am okay with that. I have accepted that I CAN enjoy college without the social life.

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Whining for half a post and then talking about moving on is not the same as moving on, even if you write that you are moving on and not whining.

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You don't want to succeed. You want to fail.

Blame.

If I scrolled back far enough, I'd find one of your posts saying something like "I can't wait to move to college away from my southern state city, because I have heard it is better for reasons 1, 2 and 3, and my city is bad for game because of reasons 1, 2 and 3."

Now you're basically saying "my game isn't working because college is bad for game." You're trying to sound unaffected by saying you'll just drop it and wait til you're out of college, but clearly that's not true. Really, you are blaming your surroundings, you're blaming college for your lack of success with women. You're whinging about college not being good for game. Try and dress it up however you want, you are.

The simple fact that you have to make a "drama" post shows that you are affected by it. Now, if you were just mildly affected or not affected at all, you might mention this in passing on here, or more likely you wouldn't even mention it, because it would be a non issue.

But you don't. You make a drama post. You set up all the reasons why one thing is better than another. You announce that college isn't good for game. You try to come up with some strange reasoning to hope that your situation will improve in the future. You clearly don't want to be in the situation you are in now. Basically, you're pissed off with and affected by college. Now it's not just about posting on here - you could not post on here and still be affected by it in your head.

The sooner you start to take responsibility for things yourself and stop blaming other things, stop whinging about other things, stop trying to think that a change of scenery/something external will suddenly make you great with women and instead actually look at yourself and sort yourself out, only then will you start to see real results with women.

My college threads were made to challenge the concept that college years are the best years of your life in terms of hooking up with girls when they clearly aren't. I have presented a different aspect of it all and given you a reason. And yes, deep down inside I do wish that I was living that college life which was about having an active social life and getting laid every week but now I have come to the final stage of acceptance. I have ACCEPTED that I will not have that kind of a life in college and it just isn't going to happen for me. Instead of making myself miserable for it I have learned to deal with the pain.

I have learned to stop fighting against what is going to happen, I have given up on hope that things will get better no matter what I do, and most importantly I have decided to look forward. Right now I know I was dealt a terrible hand in the social world and had too many roadblocks along the way for me to live the kind of life I want in college. I have given up and learned to be happy with my fate rather than being hurt by obtaining what cannot be obtained.

I know that I will never score with the hot sorority girl in college and I am okay with that. For some reason I am not good enough for those girls and don't have the status it takes to get them and since I came into college as an outcome of super strict parenting and tons of issues. I can leave college knowing I took the time to workout those issues which are mostly gone now. I even got some lays out of it in those years.

For now, college has become a burden for me and I am not going to have a good time socially. But when I do hit the real world I am going to hit it as a much better man than I hit college.

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You can pull girls without social status. And if you don't have social status you can fake it.

The only thing a change of scenery will give you is more opportunities.

Adapt and overcome.

Problems have solutions.

I dare you to approach the 10 hottest girls on your campus this week. Just do it. See what happens
Your spirit is broken that's your problem.

And when you can't close as a working adult, you'll blame the workplace, and how people in your office are cliquish with no means of finding new friends because you spend all day working.

Also, your previous thread was basically saying "I can't get laid on a US college campus, therefore US college campuses are a bad place for game." As usual, it's never your fault.

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These hos ain't loyal

Your biggest problem is that you can't accept any responsibility. It's never YOUR fault, it's someone else. It's not that you don't xyz, it's that you know you can't xyz.

I'm in college. I'm in a tiny fraternity that few people know about. I'm at a college where I have to work hard just to keep up, yet alone do well. I haven't gotten laid yet. You know why I haven't? Because I've been wasting my time at parties getting wasted rather than approaching women. When I do approach women, they're interested in me. Why? Because I approach with the belief that they WILL want me. It's not tough to do.

My lack of sex is my fault. I acknowledge that, so I improve myself. I'm not going to drink at the next party I go to. I'm going to approach women. I'm working on improving myself, rather than acting as the victim. Stop being the fucking victim and throw yourself out there. It's not tough. Getting rejected happens to all of us. I had 5 rejections in an hour one night. The next night was Yom Kippur, so I couldn't go out. I went out on Saturday night and approached one of the most attractive women I've ever met. Guess what, she was into me. I was an idiot and left before she and I could do anything.

Stop blaming everyone else and take responsibility. It isn't THAT hard.