First of all I know some of you are going to bash me for being in long distance relationship but I truly loved the girl and wanted to be with her someday I had already made plans with her to marry her in two years after I graduated but anyways here's how it goes...

I was in a LDR for a year and 3 months and she ended up leaving me for somebody else. I had met her in mexico around 3 years ago she started texting me I knew she had a bf but I was 18 and I didn't really take into consideration that much. For two years we texted each other almost every single day, and I never asked about her bf again. Finally about a year later I was finally going to return to mexico and a month before that she tells me that she does not want to hurt me, and after 2 years reminded me about her bf. I told her that I was not going to talk to her again and that she should try to fix things with him, we stopped talking for about a month but I could not take her out of my mind we had been talking non stop for 2 years. And I decided to contact her again. Finally I get to mexico and want to meet this person that I had texted for 2 years and I finally meet her at this park. We start talking and everything seemed good then I asked her would your boyfriend get mad if he saw us? And she said he shouldn't because they had just broken up a week before I asked them how long they had been going out and she said 4 years. I was shocked at first but then she told me that they had been on and off and she finally decided to end it for good. So we started going out and everything was awesome there was an instance where her ex saw us and caused a scene but nothing happened. In about 2 weeks she tells me that she is falling in love with me, I wasn't really in love with her but told her that I was feeling the same way because I did not want to hurt her. I return to the US

and everything was going awesome as well we texted constantly and once in a while saw each other on SPAM. When I return in Christmas she surprises me at the airport and we go to eat at a restaurant where she hung up a huge sign saying welcome back and our faces painted on there. She also decorated my apartment filled it with things she had made and gave me a lot gifts. December went awesome as well we had a lot of fun and bonded more. When I return everything keeps going awesome as usual she is very attentive always sending me messages we see each other on SPAM everythings awesome. Until about march She starts to become very distant and almost seemed as if she was going to a depression sometimes she would not text me for hours she would just come home from work and go to sleep. She would sleep almost everyday. She also seemed to become less affectionate. She just tells me that she is not feeling well but to not forget that she loves me I thought about ending the relationship as it almost seemed as she did not care, but thought that she was worth it and wanted to prove to her that I wanted to be with her so I put up with it all.

May comes and on the 31 her birthday I return to mexico and surprise her at night she had no idea I was returning and take a mariachi to her house to serenade her. She was really surprised and we just hugged and kissed each other after not seeing one another for a couple months. This start going as usual we hang out we go out a lot and two weeks into it her ex bf appears again. He causes a huge scene he posts some pics about them on facebook when they were still together she goes to his house to ask him to take them down and he ends up snatching her purse I get mad when I find out and we almost got in a fight it was just a huge mess her whole neighborhood saw their families got involved, and my dad saw her as problematic and from then on never liked her again. Things calmed down but she remained distant and not at all affectionate. I started wondering why after I almost got into a fight for you I have put up with a lot from you wont she at least be more affectionate. She was a very reserved and at times could be cold. She did not like to show a lot of emotion. I also started to wonder why her ex bf was so crazy, her ex bf before him all of suddenly had turned crazy too, I asked myself these things and the relationship just seemed to be going down.

I then thought about it and decided that she had good qualities she was humble hard working did not look down upon anybody plus she had gotten me so many gifts and decided to try to fix the relationship. I talked to her about it she realized that I was not happy and she made an effort to change, the following month after that everything was great I felt happy the relationship was going good we went out a lot we hung out with each other every single day. on our 1 year anniversary she decorated an apartment bought my favorite dinner filled it with flowers and balloons and poster and we ended up having sex for the first time. She was not a virgin I was and honestly the sex was not that great. It was my first time and she knew it. But that did not stop the relationship from going bad we still were happy and did a lot of things. I return to the US and again things seemed to be going well she was very attentive we did not see each other through SPAM that much this time because I was always busy studying or doing homework or sometimes her internet would not work.

and Last month she all of sudden starts doing the same things she started doing in march. She doesnt text me that much she sometimes would not text me for hours, she stopped being affectionate she stopped telling me I love you. I get fed up and ask her whats wrong. She tells me that she is not feeling good she is going through a lot and just want to be alone and have time to think things over, At first I am shocked but ended up giving in and tell her ok that fine Ill give you your space but how do I know that you will not end up finding someone else during that time? She gets mad at me and asks me is that all you care about she made me feel really selfish and egoistic, I aked her if it was somebody else and she got even more mad at me and asked how I could think such a thing? She assured me it was not anybody else but she really made me feel like crap and guilty for thinking those things and just decided the best thing was to just be nice to her and give her her space maybe she would return later. I kept being unsure of why she had decided to end things or what her problems where and decided ok I will wait a month I wont talk to her and the reason she left was because of her problems than she should miss me and want to come back and if it really is somebody else in about a month I will probably find out about it.

So a month passed by I contact her once in while and ask her how she is doing and she just talks really cold to me like if nothing had ever happened between us as if we were just people that knew each other. Then I get word from my cousin that she is seeing somebody else.

That hurt alot, I went through so much for her put up with alot from her spent 2 and half months down there with her worked my butt off over here to go see her and then my cousin tells me that she has a new boyfriend, another American who she had not seen in a long time they were former friends and had worked over here and returned in september.

But I knew I should have seen it coming and I probably deserve it because I did the same thing with her ex and what does not start good does not end good. She came from a very problematic family her dad would always get home drunk and was known around the town for cheating alot on her mom. He had a really bad reputation in the town. Her family life was very troubling. I then later found out why the her 2 ex boyfriend went all crazy for her always looking for her and threatning her, it is because she did the same thing to them she started seeing someone else while she was with them and then all of sudden would just leave them. She was very troubled but she just seemed to care alot about me so I still am wondering why she did what she did, was I too nice, I treated her like a princes did I do something wrong? I just want to know why she acted like she loved me so much and then just completely change and leave me? What do you guys think?

She just gave me so much and did so much for me and seemed really mature why would she do that?

The post is self-explanatory.

First of all and with all honesty, long distance relationships barely work. You have to accept that. She is meeting people every day, she is getting invited on dates very often and I'm pretty sure that she have had sex at least once when things were going great between you both. When a person is close to you (in the same neighborhood/town), you'll develop faster attraction for them than a person on SPAM/SPAM/or whatsoever network.

As I said, she is meeting new guys each day. Any guy would have a way much bigger influence on her than you, and it's not because of you. You seem like a great guy, but distance is the problem, and it always is.

I'm going to be completely honest with you. In my opinion, immediately drop her and move on because you are hurting yourself at the moment. It'll be hard at first, but you eventually have to do it sooner or later. As long as you are not close to each other (seeing each other at least 3-4 times a week), it's useless and she will eventually end up cheating on you every once in a while.

I want you to go chill downtown for around an hour. Observe the beauty of other girls and know and be sure that you can get a way better woman than this one. Attachment is a hard thing, but you have to break it immediately before it starts negatively influencing your life.

I hope this helped.

long distance relationships are HELL if they're not open relationships because somebody is going to cheat. it happens to alot of people in the military so don't think your luck is bad....trust me i feel your pain except it wasn't that long of a distance...i went off to school and she was 2 years below me (still in highschool) we talked everyday and carried on our relationship like nothing changed but slowly i start noticing a "friend" she had....and as time went on the closer and closer it got until she just cheated on me and completely left me for him. i know for a fact she made me look like the bad guy in the relationship when i was a college freshman avoiding parties and ignoring girls to be faithful and talk to her

the same way you was a friend and she had a boyfriend and you took his place is how she did you....im sorry bro its not you its women they are emotionally weak and very impatient. they'll make you look and feel like trash to make their wrong-doings right. you have to realize that she's not perfect and if she did you like that then she's not the right one for you....don't take her back and do not stay her friend i don't care how happy yall were together, that's where i messed up and im still recovering from it 2 years later....just try to forgive and FORGET...and please find you a new beautiful girl to take your mind off her oh and watch "500 days of summer" its a corny movie but its amazing for a break up


know that didn't help but i tried bro

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie

OH AND DON'T EVER blame yourself for a girl cheating.....you'll kill yourself thinking of things you did wrong...unless you were abusive or just wasn't there and never listened then you didn't do anything wrong.....you sound like a good man and you just ran across what happen to alot of good men in LDR.....trust me you'll be happier with a girl closer to home

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie

Her loss. Next.

1. Go strict NC. Delete her off everything, make sure you have no means of contacting her. She is clearly used to guys chasing after her after she fucks up, what does this tell her? It tells her that the more she carries on with her behaviour the more attention she gets, therefore encouraging her to do it more. You chased after her too much, sometimes you should just say, "Okay, talk to me when you are ready", and if she never gets back to you, so be it, you would already be sarging other girls in any case.

2.Its time to be the man she wished she had never left! Go to the gym! Focus on making that cash-money! Get your style in order, cut that hair, become a better version of yourself.

3. Go fucking experiment god damnit! She was your first, you need other pussy!GO GET IT! No more serious relationships for now! Serious relationships will be the death of your youth! Hardly any person under the age of 30 is ready for a serious monogamous relationship, so don't force or rush things, focus on having fun.

I know it hurts, i know it sucks, i know you don't understand her actions.The fact of the matter is actions speak louder than words, she played her cards,you didn't like them, its time for you to change the game.

Things will get better!
Good luck! Keep sarging!

S.E.E.D

They say women with low self esteems are always incongruent during the mating game. Remember that.

It's so easy for us men to blame ourselves for the trash we date. You sound like a good guy who ticked all the right boxes and she thanked you by being a douche. Excuse my language here but I'm done seeing men blame themselves for failed relationships. True to what the guys are saying if someone cheats on you it's their fault not yours never blame yourself.

On the flip side of the coin some will tell you don't be needy don't be an AFC, beta etc and I agree. I feel the best cure is being yourself. If your best mate wants you to go for seafood and you don't like seafood you tell him straight no! But why when it comes to women we give them what they want we'd probably go for seafood because "love is about compromise" Then they start cheating because you're not a challenge anymore it's boring predictable like a 40 year marriage in her eyes.

It's her loss move on. Always rephrase "I am a Real Man, I am the Prize and I know how to treat a lady"

As long as you don't bring drama into a woman's life why should you accept hers.

Learn to soft next when a woman brings drama show her where you stand you don't tolerate bullshit!

I agree with the guys go out and better yourself gym and meet new people, have fun. With two failed Long distance relationships under my belt I can tell you these things don't work the women always just go cold and cheat on you, fact of life. In a sense long distance relationships devalue us as men. All you're saying is that "I'm so weak I can't get a decent woman around me that I must travel 1000 miles for pussy" remember you are the selector the Prize!! Except for those married and living apart due to work or other valid reasons.

One thing I want to punish you for is flirting with this woman when you knew down right she had a man! It's funny how the tables turn and now you're the frustrated one! Lesson for you:

STAY AWAY FROM WOMEN WITH PARTNERS IT NEVER ENDS WELL! Cause if she could flirt while she was seeing someone it's easy that she's gonna do the same while dating you! And guess what she didn't spare you either...


All the best and be the better you don't be sour move on meet more women there are many who'd kill for a man like you! Make them work for it. Player


Dragon