I think this is my worst area. What are some of the things I should do to improve this part of my game? What should I be thinking about when I'm trying to build comfort?

I realized that I really suck in this area earlier today. A friend (female, HB8) of a friend walked by me in the gym today and she said "hey". i responded with "hey, what's up" and she seemed a little nervous and just responded with "tired". It was obvious that she was down to have a conversation but I wasn't sure where to take it! This is only one example of many that I encounter.

other ones include walking out of class next to girls that i've known for a while but i just can't come up with a good comfort building conversation.

thanks for any input. i know my question is very general but any advice will be appreciated!

anything?

I feel like I have trouble carrying out conversations too..you could inquire about what she did at the gym and ask her what days she normally comes...small talk like that maybe after a couple times you could say that you guys could go for a run or somthing...just a thought goodluck.

You can read all you want, but I will tell you the best advice of all (that helped me SO much, because I used to have your problem).

It really takes practice practice practice, you've got to feel comfortable in general talking to PEOPLE. Making simple conversation with PEOPLE (whether its a hot girl or an old man).

GO out to a mall or another public place and start talking to people. ANYONE. Start talking. Go ask someone the time, ask an employee advice on what to get your friend/parents for their b-day. Like I said, talk to guys, women, old, young, anyone. It might seem stupid but just GO DO IT, once you do it, you will see the point of it. When you get used to having conversations with all of these different people, it will eventually become natural to have a good conversation with any girl you want.

As you practice more and more in public, try to make the conversations last longer. YOU NEED TO BE A GOOD STORYTELLER. Try to turn 1 minute convos into 3 or 5 minute convos. Just get out there and do it and you'll learn how to make conversations last longer.

This is also a great exercise because it builds your confidence and it decreases your anxiety of approaching strangers. So it really is one of the best exercises you can do.

Now of course I'm not saying this is the only thing a PUA ever needs to do. The routines and other things on this site are absolutely essential, and you should try to build them into your conversations, as I have done in my public approaches. But at the same time, I'm just saying that if you read and don't PRACTICE PRACTICE PRACTICE, you are wasting time. Read a little bit, try to pick up a couple routines that people have posted on this site, and then just get out there and TALK to people.

In 2-5 days of going to the mall and having conversations with at least 10 different people each day, you will be so smooth and confident, and you will easily be able to have a conversation with any girl that you choose. And at the same time, you also will have severely decreased your approach anxiety. You should be able to go up to a woman at a bar with relative ease if you have practiced enough.

If someone tests this out (even after the first day of going to a mall) let me know your reaction. Everyone I've had do it so far has loved it!

In your situation I would've asked her to be my spotter or vice versa. Or you could've said "Hey I just learned this new excercise and I want to try it out with me" and then you could've preceded to walk her through it. If you want new excercises to try out just look some up in a book or on the web.