I do think that my race to one extent or another has had to do with it but I also think I went overboard with the bitching and constantly posting threads about my misery. I made others sad and I was bringing too much negativity on to the forum. As for being a Brown dude in the south gaming blondes, well ya that is going to have its challenges but when life deals you a bad hand you have to learn how to play it. I dealt with it the wrong way and the bad reputation I got from it I deserved.

Anyways as for the college thing, it just bothers me that so many people say college is the time of your life when you are going to get laid the most. I just don't see it as much in real life and haven't experienced as much either. A lot of it being due to my busy schedule moving up in my classes.

Many many students I know are in a similar situation along with having to work.

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Look guys.

This dude posts hundreds of posts in more than a dozen forums EACH. He lurks. Reads thousands of posts. Replies to hundreds of posts. Makes new threads and posts. Signs up in forums and so on and so forth. He gets a fix from getting sympathy from dozens of people like us and those "I also had the same or somewhat similar problem as you have..." kind of posts are not gonna help him. He just can't get enough of those.

The only way to help this dude is to get him out of the sympathy train and put him on the ACTION train. He expends way too much energy, time, effort and emotions sucking out sympathies from everyone of us. The only way to help this dude is help him get laid and build his testosterone up. It's pretty obvious from the vibe he gives off in his posts and his pictures that he's not getting laid and has very low testosterone.

Don't ride his sympathy train.

Get him on the ACTION train towards the GET LAID destination. That will fix many of his problems. Testosterone gives life.

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I was actually admitting that I have messed up in the past and yes I did do that months back. I ended up quitting and am very proud that I did. As a guy I quit posting about race over and over and over again so why say I do that when I quit months back? I have taken action, improved my situation a lot, and have come a long way from what little was given to me.

I posted this thread to bring light to the fact that the college experience promoted by media and society is not a reality for most kids. In the future I will post what I have learned and my experiences. So hellhound, why bring up some past nonsense and say I am begging for sympathy when I openly admitted my mistake?

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bumping this thread for more discussion that is on topic.

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Well here in Europe we have no such things as college campus(except maybe some northern countries like UK,idk) no fraternities and no football teams(are you even talking about football or that strange American football you play with hands and armor?) but girls in that age still do not date any one, i think it is more a thing of age then college, at that day and age girls still think they can eventually pull a prince charming, but when 30es start knocking at their door and first wrinkles creep up on them they are suddenly a lot more cooperative.

I disagree with everything I read in the first few sentences of OP's post. I did not read beyond that. Only reason your not experiencing more sexual intercourse is probably the way your meeting girls. Just approach girls that are alone arbitrarily and start having a conversation with them. Sorority girls are usually nicer too actually because they are social and friendly in general... there's this stigma that sorority girls are mean because they seem "plastic" or whatever it's just social conditioning they are nicer than most girls actually.

I agree 100% with everything you said except, its no ones obligation on here to help him get on the ACTION train. The dude constantly drags the forum down. I still don't know if it's deliberate or a case of a lost soul trying to have forum member's validate theories he has, or he's just lonely and bored. My guess is both the latter 2. I would post advice here more but guys like him make me want to find other forums non-pua related in my free time like sports or music.

It's like some of these guys I'm trying to help need to find the ugly, the obese, the minority races, go gay, or just submit to not having a mate. I've known guys who adjusted to being oddballs with women and just giving up on them. they are happy going to work, coming home, drinking beer and jacking off and being single and staying that way. They say 10% of men die virgins. I'm sure many of those types are here and I wouldn't doubt if you aren't looking at one who started this thread.

From my experience sorority girls pick the guys they want to be nice to. Most will smile at the guys who aren't high value but their disinterest and the whole "I look down on you because you aren't in my clique" mentality will appear within minutes of speaking to them. I have seen this at house parties a lot and many other places, the stereotype rings true from my experience and many others believe it too. Now there are nicer sororities which are usually not as recognized, those girls are usually more down to earth and are nice to people but the higher ranked ones (more known) have a reputation to live up to and if you don't fit their bill of attractive, be ready to have your feelings hurt.

The nicest girls I have met were GDIs, all of my success in college has come from these girls alone. For some reason the sorority girls have their own bill to fit here and that really screws up my chances with them.

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SMH...

Yes, I come on this forum on days when I am lonely and depressed and feel hopeless. The culture here in America makes college out to be some paradise where everyone is out having fun, hooking up, and all of that. From the many guys I know this is not true at all, it is only true for certain men from my experience and having this discussion with others. I didn't post this thread to say to the whole world that if you aren't in a fraternity or on the football team your college experience will suck, I posted it to tell the world that you will have to work for the college experience if you really want it and it is something I wish I had.

Reality is most of the students I know are working to pay tuition and rent, are too busy in their major to party, and are too exhausted at the end of it all to head to a bar and get wasted.

Now for the personal attacks against me, I have come a long long way from my former self and I had the most unfair hand in life coming up. I am proud of my progress and the fact that I no longer dwell on the race thing anymore. I could have been the guy watching porn all day and I was the guy feeling sorry for himself all the time and not interacting with people when I first came to this site. Now I am different from that guy and I made this thread to talk about college, not some past bullshit.

No one is asking you to read my threads, I hardly post as many of them here anyways. No one is asking you to post on this forum, by all means talk about music and sports. But quit lowering the value of this forum by attacking members who have legitimate concerns. In short, just leave (this thread at least).

You want me to come out, say life is all sunshine and roses? That's not going to happen.

THIS thread brings up the fact that college is indeed overhyped.

And it can be a positive thing BECAUSE.........

You don't have to deal with this limiting belief that after college it is all going to go downhill and everyone is going to grow old and lonely.

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Lol, when I got to college I never even KISSED a girl. I was socially awkward as shit. I turned it around and became quite successful, very quickly. Most people can do it in college.

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