Alright here is a scenario that I'm sure many of us have been in. I'll add my own details to my specific situation too.

So my friend lets name her cindy, has always known I've liked her, we've always had a special connection with out putting each other in the friendzone but our times of being single never quite matched up with each other. She is now pretty much broken up with her boyfriend and I know there is a flock of guys just waiting to jump on that for a chance, what would be the best approach in this situation with out autofriendzoning myself? would one wait till she is over the guy? I've lost many girls like that with the window closing and having someone else take the risk of asking them out first, you never want to be the first guy, but then again you don't want that window closing on you.

What do you guys recommend?

I would just ask her to hang out and try and escalate the situation.

Yeah bro, just ask her to chill watch a DVD the promise of Ben and Jerry's normally works ask if she could be any ice cream flavour what would it be, neg her choice unless its your favourite. Then just drop a gee sexual innuendos to escalate the witch. Check out rapid escalation if she is really not feeling it any point STOP and wait till it'd forgotten to try again. Stay in her mind with text game and then POW you'll be getting a few this guy asked this guy said and just say why are you telling me? Take small offence and ignore it. This, in the past, should drive her crazy. When your alone rapid escalation is awesome because it drops her ASD. Then the rest is up to you...

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You will do fine if you follow the advice above. Plus she already knows you! So,being a first guy could be your window of opportunity. As long as you are respectful about her situation and don't drop something like "I know there are 50 other guys who want to assault your lady parts.... but please be mine!"

Al

Do none of the above. If she wants to go out with you she'll make it obvious otherwise if you go ahead with these half assed ideas you will end up in the friend zone. Surely you can tell if she wants more than a friendship with you or is your stupid fucking ego telling you to go for it?

First step is to accept that it's over.
Pretend that you are fine with the beakup and let her know that it's important to you that you remain friends. Create a "false friendship"

This will make her question her decision.

Learn from your mistakes and grow as a person and show her through facebook statuses etc that you're fine without her as a girlfriend.

If you CHASE and show that you're sad and want her back this will only give her more confidence to feel attractive to go look for other guys. She's already looking for a new, don't give her that boost.
Don't contact her every day, not every week. Maybe a couple of times a month. The thing is to not chase her when she wants you to chase her, but make her chase you.

Suggest a hangout with her in a group with mutual friends and don't give her any more attention than your other friends. Smile, laugh be happy. Do well at work/school, talk to other women.

When you talk to her, be interested in her goal in life, her interests etc and be supportive. You can neg her and be funny and all that but make her believe you don't need her back. One if the mistakes I've made is to neg too much and be a complete asshole, showing her I'm with other women, posting pictures with me and other women on facebook to make her jealous. This will probably make her sad and miss you a bit, but it will encourage her to move on faster.

This is the first step to getting her back I think. You'll never be completely in the friendzone because you've already been intimate with the girl. If you remain friends for a while there will be sexual tension even if she don't want it.

Good luck!

(ref: relationship rewind)

Thanks for all the great advice guys but she ended up getting back with him...our movie date is still on but I'm probably going to cancel it and go out on the town, no point in trying to take her away from her bf

Also to the poster above me...you just read the title didn't you? Still good stuff in there lol

Oh my... :p

Learned a lesson there.