okay if you have a slow internet connection you are really gonna hate what im gona say next but ; listen to all the great pua's out there , the ones you consider the best , or your idol , they all say the same , aproach anxiety never goes away , you just have to grow a set of BALLS and learn not to give a fuck . and to be honest the more you get yoused to aproaching sets and being rejected the less you will care about rejection . put it this way if you go into a set expecting to be turned down but you actually get somewhere you are going to get a confidence boost and want to open more sets .

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It all funnels down to your confidence.
The more confident you are, the more people will be around you, the more you'll be able to open.
I usually go in a bar with a group of me and 3-4 girls, and hell do I make every single person talk to me inside.

Best way I've used is a female wing (a hot one), it always works.

But really all you have to do is strike up a conversation with any single person, even if it was a guy, and then they'll introduce you to everyone on the table when you've proved yourself worthy and fun enough to be around with.

Totally agree w/ the OP: The best way to annihilate approach anxiety is to approach. Give urself permission to be sloppy/rusty on the first one or two of the day, who cares. We are insignificant specs on a tiny blue dot called earth in the middle of an infinite universe - nothing matters. Just do it. Eject from your first couple of approaches. You'll start to get in flow. By girl 3 or 4 she will be swooning.

to be honest it's exactly that. approach anxiety may NEVER go away, it's like jumping into a cold pool... no matter how many times you do it, the first time you jump in it on any given day will have a scary/shock factor.

what does happen is you overcome the initial fear / shock factor because you can rationalize it with "I've done it once I can do it again, I'm still here, I'm still alive" etc etc.

the difficulty curve just gets reduced but you really have to get out of your head, grab your balls, and go for it. Once you've gotten wet then you can do it over and over during the same night because you got used to it.

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Huzzah! Have fun for Chris'sake. Simply have fun. F*#@ with them a little. Make them laugh. They ain't gonna bit you... unless that's what they're into, but that's another topic for another forum on another site.

Guys, women LOVE being paid attention to. Its what they're wired for. Gets their egos going. When you can do that, then you stand a much better chance of making a move AND you will feel way more confident. Do you listen to PUA Masters opening lines? Aren't they intended to flatter a woman? Duh.

-WY

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Thanks,

WGY

"Do you have some good openers for Chinese girls?"
"They usually don't need an opener. Most of them are the pull-tab kind."

Don't GAF, just DGAF (think about it)

Fear is the mind killer. Anger is the mood killer.

hm, yes very interesting. tell me more.