Here's the story:

Met a woman in work(HB7ish but she's cute and has a great personality). She likes(ed?) me, told me I could have her when I wanted so I pressed for a meeting. Met her, tried to kiss her, she shut me down. I froze her out, she freaked out so I LJBFed her. Week later, we're friends, and she lets slip she still likes me (I show interest at this) then takes it back the next day and flat out gets insulting about not liking me. I get angry and give her the "We're just friends" talk. She backs off, doesn't get too near me but still eyes me up and down, tries talking to me in group conversations but I show no interest and wave her off.

Now the messy bit starts to happen. She gets closer to a friend of mine, shows interest in what he likes, starts hanging around him(We don't hang out much), even going out with him as friends. The guy is impressionable so I bring it up with her not to lead him on unless she genuinely likes him, she tells me she's not so I leave it. Then she starts working on another friend of mine, this time a woman in work i've been getting along quite well with and i've shown some interest in(Light kino, teasing, very light flirting). Now she's trying to be best friends with this woman.

I'm stuck as to what I should be doing here?

Bump

The only way to win the game is not to play.

You and her are running in circles; no one is escalating; no one is continuing to push things to the next level. You're playing this "I love you, I love you not" game with her so she is mirroring you by fucking with the people you're cool with.

If you friendzone someone; you leave them there and don't do it because you think it'll make them like you. Be a man of your word.

She's a friend; and as the freedom to do whatever she wants. Why is the decisions she's making in her personal life bother you so much? Detach yourself and take a chill pill.

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You're right about that Joey. I've begun to take a break from her altogether, keeping my distance and ignoring her. I'm pretty sure she's getting the picture now. Playing those mind games was ridiculous. I flat out failed at it by participating and reacting to her but at this point it's beyond repair... Well it's not, I could turn it around again but she's not worth the effort or attention.

The reason why I was bothered wasn't because of her but because she was leading on a fairly decent guy I know and he was getting drawn in way too far. He is literally her lapdog at this point which is sad to see. With the other chick it just feels like this girl is trying to make her more her friend as to influence her opinion of me. It's either that or she's trying to sabotage anything that might happen between me and the other woman. That's what bothers me, this chick invading my life. Whether she turns nasty and starts trying to mess with the people around me is my main concern here.

After today I just gave her the cold shoulder, ignored her and those around her but I acted friendly and cool with my two friends(Both the guy and the girl I flirt with a bit) when I seen them.

What are you seeking to achieve by doing this?

And if he's your close buddy.. you take it up with him not her. If he's not, you kinda have to stay out of it. A "decent" guy would know his worth a bit more than to fall victim to that kind of nonsense.

But what are you trying to achieve with the cold shoulder thing? What purpose is it serving?

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I'm trying to keep my distance from her so she's not seeing interest in me or from me. I've been trying to do this for the past week and a half now. I've gradually been dismissing her, ignoring her, showing no interest and now this: completely cutting off from her. I'm not doing it to game her, i'm genuinely trying to turn her off me so I can at least talk to her or see her without there being anything going on between us or any childish games.

The guy is someone I know and talk to from time to time, not a real close guy but he's the quiet shy type with not much experience with women in general. I can't go up to him and tell him what I see that's going on. He'll just take it the wrong way. I'm just going to stay out of it and not bite into any bitchiness that might come out of it.

As for "Cold Shoulder" I just mean not paying her attention or being particularly nice to her, being off with her in general. The hope is that she will eventually stop being interested in me or take a hint then maybe things could get a bit more normal around her and not one massive game.

I could just get deliberately needy but that's a bad reflection on me in the setting we're in. I just want out of this mess without any drama or as little drama as possible.