How to win a girl's heart who's just broken up with somebody else.

dont be needy, dont be her friend, and if she talks to you about her ex, just say, "He still loves you, go back and try again (guys these days..)" the guys these days part is meant to create interest for her to ask you what you mean where you would say something like, "Guys these days are so immature and don't know how to treat a woman". This will automatically DHV you and make her think even though you're just bullshitting her haha

Honestly...a girl who's heart is freshly broken is not one you can win over. She'll stay hooked on this one guy for a good deal of time. If the relationship between the two of them is unsalvageable, she's still gonna need some time to get over it. Most girls at this point are basically looking for "REBOUNDS".

I've been the rebound a few times myself. And to the untrained eye it's VERY hard to tell whether she's serious or not. Mainly because girls looking for a rebound move very fast in the relationship, they progress it at lightning speed. They'll tell you that they love you, text you all the time, call, and every little clingy thing they can do to replace that image of the man that hurts her every time she thinks of him with this "new guy". They'll talk about their ex as if they've never broken up then swear to the stars it's over.

Girls getting out of a long relationship are emotional train wrecks looking to suck the life out of the first guy they come across to get over the ex and regain that power by pumping and dumping them. Some girls are rational and know the state they're in so they avoid men like the plague until they feel ready. Others go out the same night wearing the sleeziest outfit they own looking for "love".

I think it's just the guy's condition to swoop in and comfort the distressed girl and make it all better......dont do this. Even if you may have feelings for the girl, hold them back if you can. She's gonna find some sort of male comfort from anyone that'll give it to her, does that sound like relationship material? Give it some time and let her get her head back on straight. She may even cool off and go back to the ex, imagine if you got caught up in the middle of that shitfest?

If you HAVE to do something, dont be a hero. Keep it sexual and casual. We dont live in the chivalrous knight era. You need to look out for your own interests. And more detail next time, it's hard to really give any advice from one sentence.

This is really insightful. It's realli good. Thanks . I will definitely come back to this when I see how it goes applying what I've just taken in.

great reading solteris! should be made a sticky

Is this the best approach?

I'm dealing with a broken hearted girl, I really like her but I don't want to be "that guy".. So I backed off after she told me she wasn't ready to "move on"...

Don't back off.

A truly confident man believes in himself 100% that he is the best soul-mate for her.
He wouldn't back off because he knows that she will be happiest to him.


Also, here's another way to get with a chick who just went through a breakup.
TELL HER ABOUT YOUR BREAKUPS.

I know this sounds counter intuitive because you don't want to come across as the provider BUT
this is an extremely powerful way to build rapport and commonality. Plus give her empathy and understanding.
She will truly appreciate a guy who can do this to her.

Really?
Well I went on two dates with a girl (I kissed her during 2nd date, and she kissed me good night afterwards), when I tried to set a 3rd date up she basically said "You're a really nice guy and any girl would be lucky to have you but we wouldn't work out"... I casually agreed and said I respected that she told me... she then sent me a long text saying how it its her and she isn't ready to move on, and thought she was (until that night we went out on our 2nd date) then thanked me for understanding, and how she didn't want to lead me on because i was a "nice guy" and not a douche bag...

I hate how she calls me a nice guy but I think she means a "good" guy because I wasn't being a push over... And she had a bad break up with her ex and REALLY is not over him (according to her twitter) so I know she isn't BSing me... But after her text I just said "oh ok, no hard feeling. nice meeting you"... It's been two weeks and I haven't talked to her since... Should I try to make a move and be the "better" guy??

Make no mistake about it.

The best way to a woman's heart (broken or not) is through her pussy.

This comes from a guy who has banged more than a hundred women and stopped counting. Use your fucking cock; it's designed for pussy banging. Don't give us some fucking excuse why you didn't escalate properly after the kiss close.

If you're a pussy, you can't get a pussy's heart. It's that simple. It doesn't take rocket science.

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Approach. Open. Escalate. Isolate

Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

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Bro
(1) The best way to get laid is to go after 100 girls. Not 1.
The worst way to get laid is to be pursuing only 1-3 girls at a time.

(2) CRASH AND BURN
You either make it or she hates you. This is the correct way to do it.
I had a similar problem. You DO NOT HAVE TIME TO PLAY THE LONG GAME. There are waaaaay too many girls out there to waste time. YOU MUST MAKE YOUR MOVES ON THIS GIRL. You don't have time to waste playing the long game. Go and make your moves. If she rejects then she rejects you - but if you don't try (a) you won't learn (b) you'll never know and (c) it's an entirely wrong mentality.

Every girl you know you must adapt the crash and burn mentality. Take it as far as you can with her until you get rejected. WHY? Because you don't have the time to keep going indirect for too long. Eventually you have to make it clear that you enjoy talking to her and being with her and you want to hang out with her.

(3) I LIKE WHAT YOU DID ABOUT BEING NON-REACTIVE AND NOT-DEFENSIVE.

(4) You gotta be a slight jerk to succeed with women.

(5) Make your move. Make your move. Make your move. And keep making moves on every girl you know until you get rejected. Otherwise if you're too scared to make moves you (a)won't learn (b) never get laid.

(6) swallow your pride and be a bit persistent. not aggressive persistent. but persistent.

(7) get this. the best way to get over a guy is to meet a better guy. so you're doing her a favor.

(8) it doesn't have to be so damn*uckin serious. JUST HANG OUT LIKE NORMAL PEOPLE. It doesn't have to be an official date just chilllllllll that's it. you're not OFFICIALLY GETTING CLOSER TO HER. You just are spending time with her.

Don't make this shit into a big fuckkin deal bro. It's not. You just want her to join you in one of your daily activities that you're doing anyways. No official date business.

(9) keep up contact with her by pinging with texts.
just send some one liner funny texts with no questions and get responses
you want to stay on her mind in a non-needy way

good luck:) keep us updated