The girl that I broke up with and was sad over breaks up with her boyfriend.

Immediately hits me up, but also gets super sad on the phone because of her boyfriend breaking up with her.

I don't hang out with her because I'm busy cleaning my house (stupid) and hanging out with another girl.

She apparently finds easier cock to hang out with and makes plans. Tells me she's free whenever to see me for comedy club (I should have just said - let's hang out).

I see she's reactivated her account on a dating site that we originally met on. I look at her profile, she looks at mine.

Next day she messages me saying, "Thanks for listening the other day..."

I immediately tell her I was planning on calling her that day.

She tells me she is busy packing for her trip (lie).

I tell her I was trying to figure out her schedule. She doesn't respond to that.

I send her a message today telling her I'm pretty much coming back after her, because we were both pretty into each other.

She responds with how it cracked her up, but that she's just looking for a rebound right now, she's been sad all week, and she doesn't want to sleep with three guys in the same month because it'll make her feel slutty.

She tells me she's pretty much going to hook up with a guy Sunday and a guy on Wednesday (traditionally she's been very very shy about mentioning any other guy)

I hold my frame (stupidly I message her rather than just call her) and tell her that she should cancel with one of the other guys, and a few other things, like my intentions towards her. Basically I invest too much. She even went so far as to tell me that she could have a hook-up with one of the guys tonight if she feels like it. I tell her that my suggestion is she invite me over. I try to be funny about it.

No response so far, I doubt there'll be one.


So, my question is - have I totally fucked it up here?

Ugh, I was a shoe in, and I am pretty sure I fucked it up. Is there any recovery? I guess time, maybe.

I just figured that with the amount she was into me beforehand, I would be able to just parlay that into something now by basically telling her what to do.

Should I call at some point?

I know, I know, time to go game other girls, but fuck, I really cared about this one, and I really wanted her back. Breaking up with her was a terrible decision on my part. And now I had a chance to get her back, and I am pretty sure I was too pushy.

Any advice?

I am not a pua...yet, but I am pretty sure a master would say to get over this oneitis and go for some other girls.

Yeah, that's pretty hard when you've slept with 30+, you were incredibly into this one (the first one you've loved in four years), and she's literally the only girl you've looked at in your entire life and thought, "Yeah, maybe I could marry this one."

Oh well. So close.

Sigh.

So? Still oneitise. Stop bitching and making up excuses to keep her around. Do whatever the fuck you were doing when you broke up with her.

Yea, I know, I know.

I didn't really do anything when I broke up with her. I ended it because I didn't think I was ready for commitment. I realized shortly after that I was fine with it.