The girl works in the same sales and marketing firm as me. But we're in different teams.

Our company doesn't stop office rs. But frowns upon it.
We started talking abit and we became closer. Then her team leader told her not to be too close to me. She told me so.. then recently I feel she's kinda pushing me away. But at the same time we still chit chat abit.

I feel she's interested because she buys me snacks and secretly puts them into my bag. Writes little motivational quotes in my notepad.

We talk on the phone at night after our work hours, about our day and stuff.

I'm going out with her now for a movie and lunch. How do I know if she's interested or just being nice as a friend? Because she said "we're going out as friends not on a date, why should I wear something cute?" When I told her "wear something cute tmr when we meet. "

Is she interested or not?

P.s no one in the office knows we're meeting as we took our off day together and her leader suspected something.

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"Dude she has a boyfriend"
" Yeah so?...Soccer has a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score."

"wear something cute, so we match"

Simply sexualize conversation and express slight interest. Fuck this friendzone bullshit, put your personality on the line.

She sounds interested to me.

I do not talk to my coworkers on the phone after work hours. I also don't go to movies with them.

Do you need an actual green light to appear over her head, here?

Just escalate and get flirty. Get a little more sexually aggressive with your text messages too...

Also - even though you mentioned your work doesn't have rules around relationships, you're still opening yourself up to some liability with harassment, etc with this girl...

I tried escalating. So during the movies. I kino and held her hand for awhile then let go. And then kino much more.

So we were texting abit.
Me:legs are breaking. I need a massage
She: come. I'll use a hammer.
Me: do you treat you're attracted to this way?
She: please please don't fall for me.
Me: you better not fall for me.
She: I have my reasons and I like us this way.
Me: (changes topic) anyways. Don't be late tmr. 730am
She: jenny(her team mate) wants to meet me and go for our company event together.
Me: you better meet her then.
She: but I want to meet you.


What's up with this man? Should I just whack it and try? Am I overthinking?

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"Dude she has a boyfriend"
" Yeah so?...Soccer has a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score."

Shit testing... "Please please don't fall for me?" -- the fact that she has her reasons for liking you guys this way is irrelevant, and probably horse shit.

If she's holding your hand at the movies, it's not platonic.

Your response wasn't bad, and changing subject was good too.

She's interested. Keep going.

How do I push and pull in situation like this?
We're in the same office but different projects. And her team tells her to stay away from me as I'm branded as a player.

Should I just play it cool and just be normal? But sexually escalate when I get the chance?

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"Dude she has a boyfriend"
" Yeah so?...Soccer has a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score."

You're in the friend zone bro, stop talking to this chick unless you guys want to be friends. Start talking /dating other chicks and let her know about it.

-B

She kinda brands me as a playboy. Gonna try to kino as much as possible tonight. Company drinking session. And talk to other girls.

If she says something like.. you have other girls already. Why do you still need me?

How should I react?

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"Dude she has a boyfriend"
" Yeah so?...Soccer has a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score."

Dude is not friend-zoned.

"I'm going out with her now for a movie and lunch. How do I know if she's interested or just being nice as a friend? Because she said "we're going out as friends not on a date, why should I wear something cute?" When I told her "wear something cute tmr when we meet. "

That's clear to me, she's not interested - unless I'm delusional.

-B

If she asks that question just say because I like you more, or if you dont feel like giving an answer just evade the question as a joke in a way, and then change subject and kino physically ,she shouldnt resist.

Kissed closed. One statement that made me wow was " I don't likw smokers. You're the first."

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"Dude she has a boyfriend"
" Yeah so?...Soccer has a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score."

Those were some of the biggest signals I've ever fucking seen. Good job getting this shit closed, regardless. Their definitely testing the shit out of you no matter what. I'll bet George Clooney gets tested all the time, too. You just laugh at their weak half-shit and touch, touch, touch until you're fucking. I think this situation might lead you to not question it so much in the future. That chick was way into you from the get-go while you were confused.

(I'm talking like I'm an expert, but I'm a n00b. How's that for some straight bullshit)

Eveeyone is still leaening. no worries. However I'm meeting alot of obstacles. Managers making a huge wooha about it.
I think her team keader is interested in her cause he threaten to either fire me or her ifbshe doesn't cut contact with me. But guess whay. It made her want me more. And And she's saying she went movies with her team. And a teammate of hers is dating another colleague in the same company. And she's wonderig why she can't date me. Confidence shooting high up when you know you got the shit.

Ps. Her team leader is earning much much more than me. Really goes to show that money doesn't matter.

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"Dude she has a boyfriend"
" Yeah so?...Soccer has a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score."

Why not just tell her that you have to keep it quiet and act like you're not hooking up at work? Then you've got her on a purely physical affair and you don't have to deal with inevitable emotional shit. ("I know, baby, but let's not make trouble at work over this, let's just have our fun and not let other people get crazy about it"?) Just a thought...

And, yeah, I think girls are much more interested in a guy that's going somewhere than just a guy who makes good pay. This whole idea of making them think you're special... girls know money doesn't make you special, but a guy who is excited and on the move up is special...