There's this girl I've been seeing and she's a virgin. She's a really sweet girl, and we get along really well, we're like the same person, almost. But here's the cons, so to speak:

1. I opened up to her (after date 6) and I told her some of the bad things that happen to me in my childhood and I cried in front of her, and she came to me and held me. And just started hugging me. I then told her, i didnt want to say the rest cause its too much. Did I look bad?
2. I seen her 6 times now and I'm not in love with her. I feel she may date me, and leave me for another guy, like I can't trust her. She told me she has commitment issues, with this other guy she's seeing its lust, but with me it's love. She says she wants to stop seeing other guys and just focus on us. She really did mean that cause she's afraid to loss me, but I don't believe it.
3. I feel like she's categorizing me in the same area as her other Bf's were, who weren't man enough to hv sex with her, I feel like me not being physical with her is a knock to my manhood. I'm just being understanding to her. Don't get me wrong, we make out a lot but, that's it.

IMPORTANT: I feel hurt by her not wanting to get physical with me, I feel it's cause I hv a bit of a belly, which she constantly tells me about and that my arms are soft and don't hv much muscle. (Though I did demonstrate protector of loved ones n leader of men to her). I feel if I was more attractive we'd be physical. I DON'T WANT TO FALL FOR HER ONLY TO HV HER LEAVE ME FOR THIS OTHER GUY. (When she told me about him she smiled).
On the good side she's CRAZY about me (though I'm struggling to believe it) were always holding hands, hugging, she always gives me IOI's. I don't want to hurt her but I feel hurt, maybe I'm just over-reacting, maybe things will get better. Idk, please help.

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you really need to work on your inner game and your composure. You're spinning out of control man! I wouldn't stress her too much. I'd back off a little and just work on yourself for a while. You will never have sex with her if you're busting out crying at date 6. She'd respect you more if you backed away and came back at her as a more confident man.

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It is good to demonstrate that you are a sensible man, and that you can show your feelings. That is a strength. However, you must not feel sorry for yourself! Ever! Just wipe your tears away, and leave it behind you. Always look forward in life, never back!

If she doesn't feel lust for you, you probably need to work on your "alphaness". Be more confident, and think about your posture and body language. And don't be needy. My recommendation to you is to give her an ultimatum - "leave that other guy, or else!" (or else she will loose you).

Lmao what bad advice.. ultimatum? That will 100% result in choosing the other guy over him, and them leaving each other on bad terms, she already said she lusts the other guy, and nothing in the world will change that unless that guy fucks up, which I don't think he will.

My advice is like the first guy, dissapear, because you give her so much attention and she is used to it. Go ghost, dont answer her texts, don't reply to anything, go workout like a motherfker and work on your inner game ,read many threads. Then after 3 months , you can initiate with her again as a different man, and she will be wet for you if you follow all my advice, and be able to get physical with her in 1-2 dates max, if you play your cards well.

You must understand right now you are horribly friendzoned and she is giving you false hope by kissing you(I dont understand why she do that..) and telling you she doesn't want to lose you bla bla because she knows she will lose you if you man up. Positive thing is she is atleast being honest about her feelings(IE she doesnt feel physically for you) and that gives you the hint to improve.

You need to go for a swim in a frozen lake or go climb a mountain you need to totally re-evaluate the situation here.

The above posters advice is good a can work if executed properly, but I'm too impatient and lazy to do it that way. You could take 3 months off to "man-up" or you can just man-up NOW. I've gotten out of the friendzone just by totally reframing overnight and start pushing her buttons like i shouldve done it the first place. At first she's going to be a bit suprised, bit most likely it'll be a pleasant suprise. Chicks have short memories if you start acting alpha(ish) now she'll soon forgwt the old you and she'll want sex. I've been deep friendzoned, then just woke up one day, flicked the switch and next thing you know you're doin her doggie on the couch.

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Guys thank you all for your advice, and helping me see things in a better perspective. I feel there's a few things I need to clear up.

Around her, I'm a bit more alpha, I'm just explaining my thoughts to you guys. When I told her all the bad things that happened, I said, "I don't need anyone's pitty or remorse, I'm just telling you this so you can understand me." I told her to sort of tell me her life story first, and she told me everything, and she sorta felt bad as well. We were telling each other like biographies about ourselves. So in proper context I wasn't just having a therapy session with her.

As you guys can see, I'm very emotional. I've never had a relationship with a girl last this long and I sort of forget to just not take things seriously and enjoy it; and don't make it serious. I'm extremely sensitive and can get hurt easy (though I don't always show it to girls) matter of fact I always tell them, I literally don't care what ppl think of me, AT ALL. I also told her, I hv lots of woman in my life and I don't apologize for it.

She's seeing this other guy cause we met online, and all of those messages she gets sorta went to her head lol. So she's not obligated to only see me, we're just dating.

However, not let me go into the main things you guys brought up. 1) What can I do to be more ALPHA around girls (I don't want a generic answer, I know most of them, I study game EVERY DAY) what am I specifically doing that's not alpha. 2) What is the best strategy to make her attracted to me, (i.e. how do I get her sexually interested in me) like she is with that other guy. Not to manipulate her, just be so alpha and confident that no woman can resist me.

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Knowing what you want be not caring about the outcome, living in the moment, see the bright side off every sitiation.

You don't care about the outcome because you know there will be more options done the track, you live in the moment because its the most interesting place to be, you see the bright side because It's the most logical side to focus on.

Hope that pep talk helped. It's impossible for us to give you specifics on your situation bevause we arent there, but if you reframe and fix your inner game a bit you're already 80% of the way there.

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