whats the hardest for you guys when it comes to getting a girl is it

texting?
dont know what to say first?
how to get her comfortable to have sex?
nervous?
think about what to say to much ?
where to find girls?

im curious to know where is your blockage is in the process of getting laid
send a reply so i or someone else can help in any way

logistics

I live about an hour from my regular social area. And even when I game here in town, it's a good 10-20 miles back to my place or theirs. It's always a pain in the ass.

Cockblocks.

But I've discovered that if you can make the girl horny enough or escalate aggressively when she's horny (ovulating), she will find ways to eject from her social circle to isolate with you.

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My biggest issue that stops me from getting with girls is really the lack of opportunities to do so. I'm not even exaggerating when I say this.... I never get lucky and I always run into bad luck whenever I see even a glimpse of hope to get what I want done.

Here's my situation. I work full time and I go to school in community college. I can't date anybody at my workplace because the only girls I work with are either old people or girls that are already taken and have a kid already but they're just here to earn a living to maintain their way of life. I can't really date anyone at community college either because girls here are pretty anti-social and majority of the ones I try to get with are taken already. If they aren't, they just choose to focus on school so they can go into a university. I've also tried asking friends of mine (male to be exact because none of my close friends are female unfortunately) to introduce me to girls they know but I also got unlucky here because the ones I try to go to for help are either fakes/posers or they're too greedy and they want to keep all the connections they have to girls for themselves. I've also tried going to bars/clubs and no luck there either because a majority of the time I get blown off or ignored or they talk to me a little bit but they walk away shortly after. I've gotten suggestions to join clubs in my school but sadly I don't have the time to do that because the days the clubs I want to join meet.... I have to work.

So really.... I don't know what to do at all and it seems like my situation is in a huge dead end. Any help at all or advice that you can give me that can possibly help fix my situation would be great.

^^^

So your biggest problem is, everything?

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Dude they are excuses. What books have you read or what technique do you use? also how old are you?

Do you play a sport? I joined hockey from soccer due to the awesome social side of hockey (and the uni team i play for has heaps of girls teams so functions have both men and women)

also still talk to all those girls you said were posers and whatever because they will have friends and they will invite you to their fun parties or events on friday and saturday nights/ sat sun days where you can meet more people. be a YES MAN. put yourself out there.

Lately my own failings have been the day 2 (date after initial meet). I fucked 2 up just today! this morning I met up with a girl who has been messaging me heaps more than I reply to, i met her in a nightclub like 2 or 3 weeks ago then i went on a 2 week holiday so this was the 1st time we could meet up. Anyway we kissed at the nightclub but when she came to my house (before we were going out to get milkshakes) i tried to kiss her but she wouldnt so we awkwardly hugged. then the 'date' we talked a bit about early life and what shes been doing but it wasnt really a good date at all. then we went back to mine and she left (again awkward hug).
I figured i blew it but she messaged me again this afternoon asking how the rest of my day was and i replied saying it would have been better if i had gotten a kiss and she just replied that my line was cheesy. :/

ANYWAY i figure i should have done what style or mystery says to do, invite her in then grab something then leave and go on the date so that she wonders 'why didnt he kiss me?'.
On the rest of the date i figure i could have done a routine (i cant remember any or anything good to say, 1st few dates after a 9mth relationship). Any other advice?

The 2nd date was with a girl i met on my holiday which was Australian University Games (I was there for hockey, but actually for drinking/partying as im a shit hockey player and we go out every night shitfaced and in costumes. The costumes are hilarious and help with picking up as an icebreaker and as a peacocking method)
ANYWAY this girl was dutch and i slept with her on the last night of AUGs, she was a girl from my uni for hockey too. our day 2 is after a few messages back and forward and me maybe coming on too strong with the asking her to come meet up with me out one night.
ANYWAY i took her to a local restaurant for dessert after i finished work and we chatted then went to a bar for 1 drink then i drove her back to hers. the conversations were good but not sexual at all and there was no sexual tension and i kissed her when i picked her up once and then when i dropped her off too but a little longer but still she didnt invite me in and declined my offer to walk her in :S

I realise: i didnt use any routines on either date
i leaned in wayyyy too much
i didnt escalate (though i've hardly ever been good at this)
I wasn't cocky funny (especially the 1st date)
I didnt have good date ideas
I should have been more sexual/built sexual tension
I had no date plan!

And i still think i have forgotten 1000 different things i would normally do ! gosh gotta get back into the game!

ANYWAY please give me more advice on where i went wrong and things i can improve on, its a bumpy road back to MPUA!

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Confidence is key!

Leave her better than you found her

Breaking the ice. Everything goes smoothly with girls I meet at work, through friends, etc. But the moment I see a girl I want to approach all I can think of are canned openers.

My main sticking point is building the attraction. Once I escalate, I'm unstoppable and it's always AT LEAST a k-close.

I wouldn't say that because say I have a good opportunity to get something done with girls, I end up doing pretty good. Problem is though I just never get lucky and everything I've tried to do just ended up failing.

The last opportunity i've had to get anything done was earlier this year when I went on one date with this girl. She had fun, she was into me, and she told me and my friend (who introduced me to her) that she had a good time but unfortunately we never had time to go on a 2nd date because of how busy she is with school and her family so I gave up on her from there and me and her never talked since then.

Now as we speak i'm trying to find another opportunity to get with girls

I assume you were addressing me?

Anyhow I read The Mystery Method by Mystery and the advice he said was pretty good but the problem is I never really had a chance to put his advice to the test because for example... before I am able to do anything in clubs or bars, girls almost always blow me off or ignore me so there isn't much that I can really do in that situation. I'm 25 by the way.

As for sports, I used to play basketball in the park every week a couple of years ago before I started working full time and going to school. I never played organized sports though unfortunately.

As for the people I met that are posers.... I wish they were girls! They're all dudes who I met that say they know girls but in the end I end up finding out that they don't have any connections to girls and they're in the same situation i'm in trying to find opportunities to meet girls

Believe me dude i'm not trying to make excuses. I'm just telling you what's going on with my situation right now. Any advice you can offer to improve my situation would be greatly welcomed! Thanks in advance

Since you were introduced by a friend to the girl, being 'busy' is a girl's polite way of saying she is not into you. I think your biggest stumbling block is your mindset. You would rather see a glass of water as half empty rather than half full and expect pussy to fall into your lap. It doesn't work that way.

I have been a working student too studying full time in college. On top of that, I ran a fraternity and studied karate at night. Now, this is nothing compared to my college buddy. He worked in PizzaHut and another food chain and studied full time in college. When my term was done, he ran the fraternity. He also played basketball for the fraternity team competing with other fraternities.

If you want to get good at this, you'll have to invest time and effort. It all starts with the mind set-- that you have 30 minutes free time at this time of day and there's a sexy woman right in front of you taking a sip on her coffee. Are you going to let those 30 minutes pass by thinking why you should NOT approach her or you just go ahead, say hi, and escalate to see if you can isolate her and fuck her in the toilet?

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Approach. Open. Escalate. Isolate

Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

general-questions/topic137931.html