Opening Master; Mid-Game Disaster



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PostPosted: Mon Oct 14, 2013 3:23 am 
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So I have no problem going up to a woman and starting a conversation with her, but, after about a minute, I don't know what to do. I get somewhat nervous and that is because I really don't know what to talk about. I start good with C&F but I have trouble keeping the mid-game alive which basically makes it impossible for me to finish. Does anyone have any good topics to talk about during the mid-game that will keep the PU lively? I'm a newbie by the way.


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PostPosted: Mon Oct 14, 2013 10:35 pm 
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What you talk about is simple. You two are trying to get to know each other --to make a connection and find out if you are compatible. So you talk about each other. Preferably you get her talking about herself, her life, her passions, her dreams and goals.

However you are placing your focus on the wrong problem. What you say isn't really all that important. What's important is what you are communicating with your behavior. Your body language and behavior should communicate to her that you are relaxed, that you don't see her as having more value than yourself, that you are simply curious about her and aren't chasing her, that you have self-respect and love yourself, that you are friendly and have a positive attitude.

Odds are you aren't entirely confidence and perhaps even have deeper self-image problems. I'll get to that in a minute. While you are actually out practicing your social-skills, you want to focus on calming your anxiety and staying detached from the outcome. Detaching yourself from the outcome will help a lot to keep you calm. If you find yourself getting too nervous and talking too fast and trying to keep her attention... Just stop for a few seconds and breath. Relax. Slow down. Remind yourself that it's okay and not a big deal. A few seconds of silence will not hurt anything. Then after you breath, just talk again and keep it slow and calm. This will help you with your social anxiety and allow you to focus on improving your conversational and social skills. That is the only important outcome, to continuously improve your social ability and ability to control your anxiety.

There's no reason to assume a woman has more value than you, but if this is an issue then you need to actively work on yourself and build confidence through your actions and lifestyle. Get fit and confident about your looks through regularly working out and exercising, improve your grooming and hairstyle, and become knowledgeable and have an active interest in fashion. Doing these things will make you feel sexier and sexier over time. You will have a sharper image.

You also want to be improving your life in general. Pursue and engage in your passions, know what your goals are, live your life with courage and love. Be less judgemental, practice gratitude, be adventurous, be kind to everyone you know and meet, and take care of yourself. The more you improve yourself and your life, the less pickup will even matter. Pickup is like a bandaid for your dating life. Your life should be working for you, not against you.


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PostPosted: Mon Oct 14, 2013 10:52 pm 
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Never call yourself a master of anything, especially if you're a noob.

Opening doesn't get you laid, if just creates opportunities to meet women who might have sex with you potentially. Don't focus on the opener, it's not important. If you are boring, let her qualify herself (is she worthy of talking to you? ) by letting her talk more and speak to her with your body language and eyes while you listen to her qualify herself.


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PostPosted: Tue Oct 15, 2013 2:55 am 
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Thank you Ghostman, you were really helpful. You actually called me out on a lot of my flaws and I appreciate you doing that. I haven't been in the best shape as of recently and my confidence has sunk a lot due to that issue. Also, myself being a young guy, thank you for the life advise.

Hunter_Foxe, i only choose that name because I thought it relayed a description that would accurately suit my post. In no way do I consider myself a master, I just wanted an attractive title. Other than that, thank you for the advice on having the woman qualify herself. I like that concept and I think that will be really helpful.


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