Hello,

I bought Rules Of The Game yesterday and I gotta say I'm more shy than I thought I was.

I barely managed to speak to 3 strangers so far and right after work I'm going to martial arts class (no strangers there) and then take my son to his sports team practice (no strangers there either) until 10pm.

Looks like day 1 is going to be tougher than I thought

I used to be painfully shy and got much better but cold-talking to strangers on the street is going to take some getting used to.

I'm in my late 30's, recently out of marriage, I'm a casual dresser (jeans and t-shirt mostly), successful career though.

Anyone else have this problem or was this supposed to be a no-brainer that took a few minutes?

The purpose of this whole thing is to get out of your comfort zone.. Of course it wouldn't be like taking a candy from a child, you should push yourself. If you feel it's too hard go slower, add some steps in between.
Good luck

My man LsD has a valid point there. Actually; the best there is.

Go hard or go home. Is that simple, go and talk to people everywhere!

Just remember the world is yours go out there and own it! Best openers for random chat is sorry have you got thw time or hi how are you or the weather just to ease you in

Ok it took way too long but I'm getting the hang of this and I finally pulled it off on Friday, did it again yesterday.

I started by taking the advantage to say hello to random people who pass me by on the street and eventually it got easier to think of something else to say than hello. Now every time I manage to talk about something or ask a question there's a counter in my head as I aim for 5 people.

I'm gonna do this as a permanent habit I think. It's funny how you do this for a few days and all of a sudden a street full of strangers feels more like my neighborhood than away from home.

On to step 2 tomorrow. Thanks for the feedback.

Hey man, hows it going?

I feel your anguish, I had the exact same thing. I too had a similar issue. I was clinically shy and socially awkward. I've had a very rough time with alcohol dependancy and bad depression. Needless to say, I never had any luck, nor any time to even begin to try and get a girl... Any girl. At all. AND IM ONLY 22. If I can get out of that, then I'm sure you can get a date within 30 days

Anybody can get stuck, looking for the keys that you've lost that'll help you unlock a locked door. However, you'll find very soon that you had the keys in your hand the entire time. You've just got to figure out how to use the keys you have.

So have you tried cold approaching any women at all within the last two weeks? Have you purposely asked a girl to reject you there and then? These are the smallest of stepping stones. Soon as you open up and make small talk to strangers then you'll find that you'll want to improve your life in all aspects, not just getting a girl. Human emotions are constantly driven by one overriding aspect- we constantly worry about how other people as a society see us. Why are you wearing that shirt? Those shoes? That hairstyle? It's to obtain social status and to look good for when other people see you. In a fashion style that makes sense. But your personality?
Stop worrying about how other people perceive you as a person, and start living your life for who you are and how you want to be. Enjoy yourself. Stop giving a f*ck about first impressions, and just say 'Hi.'

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If You Want To Pick Up A Girl,

Keep Your Back Straight And Lift With Your Knees.

Im on day 12. I started the book months ago though.... It has been hard but I just gotta keep pushing myself to approach. There is a lot to remember when out in the field but nothing is ever going to stick if you don't go out and apply it.

Make them part of YOUR reality. Your reality is whatever you decide to make it.