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But because I do have emotions for this girl I dont wanna hurt her (AFC I know). But on the other hand I do like her, but she said LJBF so fuck it Im gonna go out and have fun its her loss.
Caring is not being AFC, but she said she doesn't want you she'd rather be your friend, take her at her word and move on, yes it's hard but there's really nothing you can do about it.
Yeah I know which is what I am doing. Just wish I could get rid of oneitis just like that. Last night did help though. The annoying thing is I know exactly why it is I start getting attracted to her as well. Its annoying.
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It's just like when someone breaks up with you, what are you going to do chase after them and profess your undying love? It'll only push them farther away. The more you try and tell someone what you want the less they'll want the same thing as you, you have to make your want known and then give the space for them to decide if they want the same thing.
Your preaching to the choir here. Change the mood not the mind.
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Being direct can have the same result... you're probably just not doing it right lol the only difference is you're not beating around the bush.
Also why do you need to lie? I'm not trying to trash talk but if you end up in a LTR based on lies what good will that do you? Are you a cat trying to make yourself appear like a lion or are you the lion, because if you're the former they'll find out sooner or later... false advertisement. (Hope you get the analogy I'm trying to make).
I experimented with a bit of direct last night. I got as far as a kiss close, but I am working on that and trying to progress it. As for am I the cat or the lion. Since starting game 6 months ago, I have started new things and live a totally different lifestyle. Instead of sitting in my flat, I now do a lot of gym work and martial arts training during the week. So Im becoming the person I always wanted to be. Ive also met a good bunch of lads, so sure when I started, I was the cat trying to be the lion. But now I have slowly started turning into that Lion.
Its only the last 3 weeks that my inner game has married up with my outer game. Hence why lately I dont seem to actually have to approach the women just come to me. ALthough Im sure that is down to the Hypnotica Hypnosis I have been doing as well (Attractor Factor, Attractivator, Sphinx).
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You're making progress good for you, but try and avoid game playing it's not healthy and it'll probably only get you as far as SNL, which is great if that's all you're looking for, but I think not since you're talking about oneitis.
Final thought: oneitis is where you want to end up, it's not your starting point, if you start off with oneitis chances you'll win her over are slim to none because you're expected to outcome, are attached, etc. It's a losing hand. Though you can date several girls then develop oneitis for one of them, that's probably the best situation.
Again, I know the issues with oneitis. Also what you are saying about dating several girls, this is one aspect I know I need to change my beliefs about. I know for a fact that it is possible, I have just not been in that situation yet. Im still learning, Ive only been doing this for 6 months, but I am making progress.