Girl I am dating 1 year. I have posted about her here before, when she told me she had had a couple orgasms with guys before, and one with me. Turns out she is not sure she has ever fully came. After she said that she admitted she had not ever finished, even masturbating by herself. She half joked but not really that she must have a dysfunction

I asked her about her sexual history and she said "you are the best i've ever had...and i'm not saying that just to say it. Other guys I have kind of found it a favor to have sex with/a chore...and I'd often jump off them before they even came" she then said she has never with oral either

She then said it is frustrating because 1. she can not give that to me 2. because she can't have one for herself

I said it is not an issue, we will work on it, she gets close very often with me through sex but her parents have been there a few times and other times there has been miscommunication between us, so no biggie! She was like "it will happen"

I said to her has this always been an issue? And she goes "well with other guys I never really expected to finish because it wasnt amazing or anything, but I get frustrated now because I feel like I should be" she then said "I want it to happen with you"

Next she said "what if time goes by and nothing happens?" I said "would you be frustrated because you can't give me that, or because you can't have that yourself" She said both

Finally, I asked if she thinks its something mental or physical. She said "I don't think it's physical, I'm sure it helps because recently we come close more often than before, I worry It will be hard for me to get out of this mindset (not cumming) though" Then during sex she said things like "we belong together" and other REALLy crazy attached things like pregnancy lines


What the hell gives guys? Should I worry about this chick leaving me in the future because of this problem? How could she ever blame me when she can't even get off by herself? Would she leave me because of this, even if every other guy she has been with couldn't do it either? She has never had one with a guy or by herself, she is 20 years old, I am giving her good sex by her standards "better than good", and she comes close but can't get off.

If she hasn't reached orgasm in her life and you were the first one to make her have one, you'll be a keeper.
Experience new methods and watch some videos, that might help you.

she probably won't leave you. It could be a number of things... it very well could be her! Get her to relax and not think about it too much. Take a look at the book "4 hour body" it's more than just a sex book but you'll learn some techniques in there that could help

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she had said to me a few weeks ago "if not with you I am doomed the rest of my life" half jokingly


the way I see it, and I hope i'm right, is that if she can't with me (which I am NOT gonna let happen) why would she cheat when her previous boyfriends the grass wasn't greener and she is the common denominator

Girls cheat for plenty of reasons other than sex.

I think you need to go buy a vibrator.

already bought a vibrator. she doesn't finish with that either

Lol maybe she doesn't know that she HAS to finish. You know like right before the orgasm you are really focused on the experience. Maybe she's just lazy at that point when she knows she's about to cum and then doesn't. Seriously you've had a lot of questions about this girl, it almost feels like she doesn't want to or she's just extremely insecure about it all. If she's not letting you finish her down there (you've posted multiple times how she just pulls you up) then that's something she needs to work on.

Advice that you've probably heard already, get her to relax deeply. Almost into a trance state where she'll literally let you go down on her for half an hour or more. Has that ever happened? An oral session where your sole focus is to make her come?

Get her to watch porn.....try that one yet?

She HAS expressed to me many times that she wants to, saying things like "I wish we could come together"

BUT on the other hand, she has expressed how it is embarrassing

She has said to me she was very insecure about this before too

As far as clitoral orgasm, I have had more consistent results with vaginal...aka she gets the "have to pee feeling" or feels like she is gonna come during sex more than with her clit, which I have almost got her there before but less consistently. We even tried having her play with herself while I fingered her, and she STILL couldnt come!

I find that I bring her close to orgasm with slow, deep thrusts with her on top and me pushing upwards with tiny thrusts as deep as I can. Also with her on her stomach and me from behind with my body above hers, as deep as I can go.

-One time we used the vibrator and she said she would have come a long time ago if her parents weren't there.
-Another time was her on top like I just mentioned, she said she felt like she had to pee, but her parents were there
-Another it was from behind and I thought she encouraged ME to finish, so I did, but she really said I think I can come....this aggrevated me because I felt like I could have kept going

MIND YOU I DOMINATE THE SHIT OUT OF HER, talk dirty about owning her, pull her hair, pregnancy fantasies, all this dirty crap.... I find she gets close to blowing when I hit that deep spot only with my dick and not my fingers. I have consistently hit it with dick for like a minute after other positions and she was close, other times after a bunch of other positions I hit it really fast for like 20 seconds and she had the pee feeling but didnt let go parents . This strongly suggests to me that I am hitting it right and it is mental, because I HIGHLY doubt that if she is that aroused and I am missing a spot in her vagina or not hitting it long enough, that would make the difference, especially when we are coming close so often.

I think she just needs to LET GO?

Her problem.

She'll never have an orgasm until she figures out her own body and how it works.

It's a dick move on her part to try and make it YOUR responsibility.

It's extremely frustrating to date girls who haven't figured out their own orgasms yet.

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You are thrusting fast for twenty seconds or a minute. Try going for two, three minutes without break. Requires staamina and you not coming but that's what you need to aim for twenty second go a minute is not enough.

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I have for a bit longer but medium to fast and deep and she got real close this is from behind and I could have kept going but a little miscommunication. Then with her on top I alternate between her riding, me lowering her on me slow, and banging her ultra fast. This has gotten her close too but her parents were there.

I do like to go fast but find it hard to stay hard in some positions, do you think hard steady and medium to fast will do the trick with dirty talk when we are alone and there is no miscommunication? There have been times where I say I am going slow and she goes " that isn't slow lol" so maybe my medium is fast to her lol

It does not matter to you if the girl has not been resolved, your problem still exists.

privacy is extremely important. Get her out of her own house dude. Make it exciting, rent a room in a hotel or get her to yours. Somewhere where you two are completely alone. Then go fast like I mentioned.

Give her some ecstacy, or, get her to meditate before sex, or, pump her harder and from different angles

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