Did she like me the second time around? Is there hope in the future?
Got onitis for this girl. For me a perfect 11/10. She stopped talking to me after several months of flirting. She said she panicked.
Back in 2010 I met this girl a a party. She followed me around and kissed me. She was completely into me. I on the other hand just wanted to have fun with my friends. And I wasn't sure if I liked her that much.
I added her on facebook the other day. Then she moved to the other side of the country. She liked my statuses and asked me if I was going to her city etc.
Three years later she moves back home to my neighbour town (2 hours drive away). Exposed to her pictures and getting a sense of who she was got me interested. I then started talking to her in a playful flirty way, being cocky and funny. It took some time to break her shield and build comfort and trust but when she loosened up she was a dream to talk to.
Lots of kissing smileys (from her), gf/bf roleplaying and snapchatting I decided to ask if she wanted to join me taking some beers (about a month and a half after initiating contact)
We met and had fun, but it could've gone better (and worse)
We where together for about 3-4 hours. 30 mins before the bar was closing I leaned towards her and we made out. She then almost immediately took me outside and kissed me quickly goodbye before she took a taxi home, which at the time was at her parents house.
The day after she giggled and seemed very happy, over the chat. She said she had a great time. In the evening she sent me a sexy picture over snapchat. Usually she don't do that.
Looking back, something inside me changed. I cared. I was weaker. She contacted me several days in a row and seemed interested. I tried escalating suggesting spooning and playing strip poker when it fitted into the context of the conversation. She responded with blushing smileys and kissing smileys.
And then I said something I think made her freak out. She would love for me to drop by her work sometime, I said -that's ok as long as we go to your place afterwards
. She responed -Fine by me
I suggested seeing a movie together the next week if I was in the neighbourhood. She said yes.
Friday she seemed colder. Saturday she didn't contact me. Sunday I contacted her, playfull, escalalating, said if I were there we could swim in one of the many lakes around there due to the nice weather.
All in the first week after I met her I ruined everything. I felt that we needed to take the next step and I had to escalate otherwise I would be a loser beta-male.
After that sunday, one week after our meeting she never contacted me first again except for one time.
I acted pissed off, asked her why she stopped talking to me and showed alot of weakness etc. And when I talked to her normally she seemed cold and uninterested. She probably would have contacted me if I didn't contact her every week or 2 weeks. I then asked one and a half month later that I wouldn't bother her again if she had no interest in me. She said that she panic almost every time when it comes to this kinda stuff. And she likes me very good as a friend because we've only met 1 time in 3 years.
-As of now, I only have feelings for you as a friend.
-I like you, but not in that way, yet. I need more time to like someone much.
I then apologised for being an uptight asshole, there's been alot going on. Of course we can be friends.
She then contacted me when at a concert in New York. She said she was also there. Maybe she wanted to meet? I acted like I didn't care without being an asshole ofcourse. I told her to enjoy her stay.
It's been 3 months now and I can't get her out of my head. I read she moved away again, an 8 hours drive away.
She likes my statuses and pictures. I like just some of her statuses but not her pictures.
I fucked up. I need to find value in myself and not her. But did she like me? Can she like me again? Is it probable that she will contact me again? I want her to like me.
Should I contact her? Should I like her profile picture?
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