Okay, this is a big one.


I see so many times guys go out JUST to get girls, not to have fun and their own amusement. But with specific objectives in mind.


Its great to go out with goals and things you want to achieve such as pulling a girl back to your place, or number closing several girls to set up Day-2s.


The problem is when guys focus PURELY on those particular outcomes, and come from a goal-oriented approach rather than a PROCESS-oriented approach. Such as JUST getting beautiful women.



They don't have fun, and view going out as a "Job" rather than a time to socialize, approach and meet hot girls, and enjoy themselves.
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I tend to agree with you.

The problem with PUA and all the reading is that it gets you to a place where your only concern is to break approach anxiety, perform some routines and seduce the girl. Trust me, after reading "The Game" and "Mystery Method" I started over analyzing every single detail that was going on in the place. I reached a stage where I started to think a lot and not act as myself.

Reading the material helps, it really has helped me. The problem becomes a disaster when you get too carried away by this PUA stuff that you forget your own self and the fun you should be having.

Personally, I read out of boredom and for learning new things that I don't know about. What I perform in the field is totally different. I go with my group, drink, dance and have fun while hooking up at the same time. This is what I see as a perfect combination. I never go out to just "sarge".