Long story short. Me 30ish, her 20ish. Sat next to me in a class I'm taking at the local CC. At first plenty of smiles, conversations, similar interests and all that good stuff. About two and a half weeks into the class I asked her out. She got kind of nervous and said she had to work over the weekend (works in a bar) She didn't suggest another time and neither did I. She goes up front and waits for her twin sister. I start to walk out and she has kind of a disappointed look on her face and says see ya. I smile and do the same.

A few weeks go by and she still initiates conversation, smiles, blah blah... One day before class I start chatting her up about mountain biking, she's into the conversation so after class I asked her if she wanted to go sometime. Says her schedule is really busy this week but she would let me know and maybe I could take her to that place we talked about earlier. But... She almost seemed annoyed.

Next week she comes in and initiates conversation as usual. I talked to her a little, but was busy cleaning up my notes and wasn't going to bring it up. Class ends same pattern, I leave, she says see ya but I'm starting to get annoyed. Later in the lab I didn't talk to her at all. Next class day that week I come in and just lay my head down. While I'm face down she sits next to me, class starts she looks over at me and I don't react. Class ends I get up to tell my lab partners that I have a meeting and can't stay to work on our lab report. As I leave I see the girl with kind of a bummed out look on her face.

Not sure how to read this one. At first I thought she was a little shy and maybe nervous, but now I'm feeling like she just wants attention. Thanks in advance for any advice and sorry for the long post.
Cheers.

Come on, don't mess it up. Don't try to act as if you were affected by her answers, that's not manly, it's childish and lowers your value.

If I was in your place, I'd just apologize and tell her that I was going through a lot the past week and now that I have solved everything, I'd like to make it up for her by taking her out one day. Ask her when she's free and set a date.

I wasn't intending to act affected by her. First (and I thought I wrote this in my OP) I was hung over, which is why I had my head down. Second I was in a hurry to get out of class for a meeting. Third the 2nd time I asked her out she was slightly rude about it. I wasn't trying to flat out ignore her I just didn't feel like initiating especially since the way she acted. Had she said something instead of glancing over at me with a blank look on her face I would have responded.

Like I said before, I was getting the feeling that all she wants is attention, and was just trying to get another opinion. I usually date women that are older than me and don't quite understand this one.

Sorry about leaving out some of the details. I'm getting over a concussion right now which probably isn't helping things either.

Cheers

spend more time flirting with her and see where it goes.... holding your head down in class and not talking to her isn't gonna make any progress. If she doesn't come around talk to somebody else.

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I don't have much expertise on college class or your age vs her age. are you 32 and she's 27 or are you about 39 and she's 21? stuff like that could make a difference.

For the most part I think you showed too much interest but I liked how the one day, (if I read it right) you kind of ignored her. college is kind of like job site. if I know I'm seeing them the next day, some days I'm nice, some days i'm an asshole, some days I'm ignoring them 2 or 3 days at a time.

I'm 34 and she's maybe 21-22. I don't usually go for them that young but she seemed cool... I didn't talk to her today either, at this point I wouldn't even know what to say. I wasn't trying to give her the impression that I was intentionally ignoring her but I'm pretty sure that's what she thought. Live n' learn I guess

Thanks wingintyme.

Man, women love older men. Got two younger women -- one of my first adventures with women years younger than me as I generally go for more mature women -- who are really into me and i'm 5+ years older than them. They're in their early 20s. They kept bugging me for my age but I kept brushing it off, joking about it and when I let them know my age I acted like I didn't give a damn about it. If you care, they care.

If this chick is into you she's only going to be more drawn to you because you are an older man. It's almost like chick crack being older. Sure it's over ten years in the difference but that means squat. If you look young you are young. Fuck man, when I was 21 I was banging a 36 year old on the regular which was much worse given she was a much older woman and I was a much younger guy!!

Here's the deal: You already fucked up after the first time you asked her out. She gave you a shit test and you failed it hard. She still showed interest and you went ahead and did the exact same thing, failing hard on the shit test. What you should have done is asked her out for a pint or something. If she said she was busy just say you were more more fun than anything else in her schedule. Be persistent here.

Well, you know now. There's two things you can do here: DHV and show attention to someone else she knows or continue building rapport and being flirty but i'd go for the former.

Figured I'd chip in: Age doesn't matter, as has been said countless times before.

The current girl I'm dating (whom I met clubbing) is 23. I'm 39. I am however in good shape, take care of my appearance, dress well and am decent at PU.

The first few times we hung out she kept giving me shit about my age, so I gave her shit about hers, and It was a series of ongoing jokes and I had a blast.

The youngest I've gone in past years has been 19 I think (not my thing but one of the best BJ's I've had in my life - a natural!), and I've been consciously targeting around 26-7, which is my preferred range at the moment.

You either just acknowledge age difference up front and have fun with it, until it's no longer an issue - or you don't bring it up - as if it didn't exist. If you don't bring it up, and you're still getting nowhere, then either (A) you don't have solid rapport -ie. bad game; or (B) she has issues with the difference and you'll never find out or be able to work around it, until you bring it up.

My girl said it could have been an issue, or the fact that I'm divorced and have a kid closer to her age than I am, but fuck it. It only really matters to them if they want to think long term. Otherwise it's just numbers.

**EDIT** Your's doesn't seem that much of a difference. I target that difference. Seems like a game problem to me.

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