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PostPosted: Sun Sep 29, 2013 6:04 am 
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So im in college and I introduced myself to this girl at a party. The thing i am struggling with is what to say after the first few basic questions. I say my name and ask for hers, ask where shes from, what her major is, what hall shes living in.... but after these questions I dont know what to say to keep her interested so she wont drift off back to her group of friends. How can I keep it an interesting conversation and eventually where I can hook up with her at the party that night, or get her number?


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PostPosted: Sun Sep 29, 2013 4:37 pm 
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PostPosted: Mon Sep 30, 2013 12:05 am 
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Stop asking to much questions. You are on a party, not on job interview! If you are going to ask questions 2-3 are MAX! Remember to make assumption, and have fun through the topic. Examples if you see that she dress well. "Say to her that you look like a model! Your dress, and hair suits you really well!" From there Most likely she will laugh and take it as a complement. Keep talking, be creative and have fun! Remember every women out there are like small kids! They wish to enjoy a story, or attention which is really fun! Just make sure to give the moment what you guys deserve together!

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Learn the basics, and know exactly where you wish to lead conversation. Go around and talk to random people at the street, school whatever. It will give you better success rate to learn your connection through everyone in time :)


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PostPosted: Mon Sep 30, 2013 12:17 am 
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After you get personal information like where she's from you try create a connection. After that it should just come naturally. You can both relate to the conversation and talk about it. You're both locked in and don't feel awkward about being in each others company.

You: Hey, you're in my class. Do you know what room we're in?
Her: Room 52B.
You: Cool, lets walk together... What's your name?
Her: Clarissa. What's yours?
You: Burt-Fucking-Reynolds. Your name is nice, very unique./Haha, if I had a cent for every time a woman told me her name was Clarissa...*Joking* You're from around here? / You look French/Brazilian/Spanish/Russian.
Her: No, i'm from X. / *Giggles* I'm French/German/Whatever.
You: That's a nice area, i've heard so much about it. What's it like there?
Her: Blah, blah.
You: Yeah, I heard that but I find it hard to believe so much awesomeness can be in one place!

Blah blah blah BLAH... You get where it's going. You gain rapport then you connect and talk about shit you both share.


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PostPosted: Mon Sep 30, 2013 12:39 am 
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The problem with some people are not either active listener, or they don't know how to sort out and grab the keyword factors, and go something from there. Worst of all I know some people who have hard time to make the conversation go naturally, and don't know where lead the conversation, because they feel insecure to take a next step.

Anyhow, your examples was great! :)


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So im in college and I introduced myself to this girl at a party. The thing i am struggling with is what to say after the first few basic questions. I say my name and ask for hers, ask where shes from, what her major is, what hall shes living in.... but after these questions I dont know what to say to keep her interested so she wont drift off back to her group of friends. How can I keep it an interesting conversation and eventually where I can hook up with her at the party that night, or get her number?
Here's the solution to your problem. Once you ask her a question, listen to what she actually says.

Many men think that they are listening when they talk to women but they are actually not. What most men are doing when women are talking, is they are trying to think about the next thing that they are going to say.

You should be listening to what your girl is saying, and then relating your experiences to what she has shared with you.

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Don't rapid fire questions at the ladies, they hate that. They want to know that you're listening. Listening is a major issue and a real turn on when women see that you are actively listening to her responses. It shows that you're a quality guy that cares. Also, from her responses, you can gain more info on her so that a natural conversation can unfold. Don't worry so much. Let things happen naturally and you'll see how this pays off in big dividends with women.

Hope this helps
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PostPosted: Mon Sep 30, 2013 6:53 am 
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You should be listening to what your girl is saying, and then relating your experiences to what she has shared with you.
This is your answer. Actually be involved in the conversation vs. thinking about what you are going to say next. Stop thinking. Start listening.


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This is a very common problem, so don't feel you're that special ;)

Conversation is a 2-way street. She may not be a great conversationalist by not giving you materials to work with.

Be obvious about it. Tease her she's not a great conversationalist, or even mention that there is an awkward silence looming.

The best thing to do is get into improvisational acting.

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PostPosted: Wed Oct 02, 2013 3:19 pm 
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Or you could just tell her she needs to keep you interested. Be ballsy like that. Smile, joke with her, tell her she's awfully boring and you thought she would be interesting. If she kinda shies away just force her to carry the conversation:

You: "You should talk more, you're really boring! Tell me about yourself. Haha"
Her: "I don't know what to say. I'm shy."

Blah, blah. Then you control the conversation and get the ball rolling. It doesn't come across as needy because you've shaken up her mindset and clearly stated that you are in control of the conversation and you're a confident man, confident enough to let someone know that they're the reason the conversation is getting boring.


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