I go out and even when I was in school, I almost never got approached by women. I have always assumed it is my looks and probably is, but I am wondering why women don't approach me in public, like in a coffee shop, in a mall or in a store, etc. I have always tried dressing well, smelling nice and all that but it's not enough I guess.

I have seen the odd IOI thing, but I've talked to women and most say they are meaningless (e.g. plays with her hair, looks at you, adjusting bra straps, wagging their foots at you, etc.)It all sounds so cryptic.

I am told by liberated feminists that women often approach dudes they like. So it got me thinking, there must surely be something very wrong with me. It is most likely because I'm thin or it could be they think I'm ugly or something, I don't know.

Aside from the obvious (I'm not attracted to you), why else would a woman not approach a guy, especially in public? In our society, the sexes are the same, so why is this considered a big deal? I've heard of it happening, so it must surely be happening, just not to me.

Why do you care what the reason is?? Guys almost never get approach, I get approached so little that when it does happened I'm in complete shock. Just dress well carry yourself well, but don't expect to be approached, that's your job to approach them, stop complaining.

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It may be different depending on where in the globe you are; but where I live it's mostly supply and demand
think about it like this, you need a product like milk; 20 milk vendors show up to your house everyday to sell you their product - and every once in a while you see a milk company on the side of the road as you drive to work - why would you go out of your way to check out that milk when you have 20 others showing up to you every day? It may be bad milk, it may just be ok milk, why take the risk?
now change the person buying milk into a girl and the milk salesmen into guys

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most of the time when women do approach its going to be out of a sense of social status.

ie leadership status.

In social groups the head of the household will often have more women approach him, all he has to do is be social. most of the time it doesn't even matter who the guy is cause it's his place.

but your standpoint is from a public view. the guy leading a group of guys and girls.

the guy already being approached by girls, these little triggers make women approach more then a hot guy.





Granted a really hot looking guy who is built lean or tone but not to much and dresses very well gets girls approaching. however if he doesn't have the shit to back it up she will leave. Unless shes just looking to fuck and usually women already have someone for that

Why would a woman not approach a guy? AA.

You know that nervous feeling you get when a hot chick walks by? Girls get that too.

Why do you care? If you see a girl you like stop being a pussy and just frickin talk to her.

from the words of some girls


"Every time I see a guy I like, my heart starts racing".

I am not saying all girls will like you. I am just stating the fact that girls are human too. They get AA as well. Since women by nature, aren't naturally aggressive, it is up to the men to lead.

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I get approached by women often but seldom get opened; unless I am doing some testosterone showmanship.

BUT, you must see a woman's approach not from a man's eyes but from a woman's eyes. A man will close the distance with a woman at around 2 to 3 feet. That's a man's approach. And then say his opener with something like, "Hi."

In contrast, a woman will close the distance at around 4 to 6 feet. And it will be very rare for a woman to say "Hi" to a complete male stranger unless she has seen him for around 3 to 5 instances. The rule of thumb is that by the 7th instance of seeing you in the same venue, a woman who is attracted to your looks will say her opener if you still haven't said yours.

A woman's approach is very subtle. It will take a lot of courage from a woman to close the distance at something closer to 3 feet. She will also refrain from any sort of long eye contact because she's very nervous.

As for testosterone showmanship, several women can't help but open me when I sing a rock song in a low, husky voice. And a few also open me when they see me at the plaza practicing kali with my baseball bats or doing HIIT kickboxing, or some fancy TKD combos.

Try to be sharper in reading those subtle signs and boost your testosterone up with proper diet, lots of exercises and ample rest. A feel good vibe also helps since women can sense if you're the approachable-type or the bitter, grumpy-type.

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Women approach all the time....they are usually indirect though because they are so afraid of rejection.

They won't approach you because if they like you they are scared of rejection. Womens ego are a lot more fragile than guys and they don't take rejection very well at all.

But instead they will send you shit ton of signals if they like you. And they will go out of their way to make you approach them. IF they like you.

Ofc there is the obvious reason that you are the man it's your job to approach. You are bigger, stronger. It's an evolutionary thing.

However saying this, I get approached sometimes. Mostly in clubs, but also during the day sometimes. I'm tall and handsome so I think that helps. But the girls approach me are usually freaks / drunk party girls etc. so it doesn't help a lot anyway.

Women are passive. Men are aggressive. It is nature. It is not just social conditioning, but nature itself. They are receivers whilst we are the pitchers. Plus think about it, the only guys that really approach are guys who are natural with girls and go for what they want ruthlessly, or puas on their way there. Why would girls do that? They have a lot of things in the way, their social status might be hindered, they might be extremely afraid of rejection, etc. But even girls with high self-esteem won't usually approach because it's just not the way things are. They EXPECT to be approached in a way. Which is why you have to be non-needy and fun to take that expectation away from them.

This is your job, not theirs.

Everyone has pretty much said everything that needs to be said.

They've got a lot of guys approaching them, they're not trained to be as aggressive when it comes to this sort of thing, you could be a dud, they might have AA as well, they might want to see if you're man enough to approach them, etc.