Watch this video from 4:25 - 4:56.

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So I understand that you should find out what is most important to the women to generate emotions that she values most. That way the you will make a connection... makes sense.

This is where I tend to fuck up so I guess I'm wondering how you would generate emotions to build that connection?

For example... Say that you're out on a date with a girl and she tells you that she's a nurse and she wants to be in the area where babies are born because it's such a happy setting. How would you trigger those emotional responses to make her feel connected? Write out a script of "Me" and "Her" if you have to.... I just REALLY need to understand this because it's definitely a sticking point in my game.

think your referring to a person's passion. All you have to do is relate our experience to that passion. So for example she wants to be a nurse specifically pediatrics. So you tell a dhv story of how you help a baby that was sick or how you did something relating to what her passion is.

Really... that's it?

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To make a connection all you need to do is to get the woman talking about emotionally charged events from her past. However, to get her to do this you have to get her to relax and let her guard down. Also, you have to remain mysterious.

You're kind of like a therapist. You reveal little about yourself. She gets all in her feelings and by remaining mysterious in the process she transfers feelings from a loved one onto you. You're almost like her father figure in a sense and she grows to love you pretty quickly.

MAP

Mysterious

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Past

To make a connection all you need to do is to get the woman talking about emotionally charged events from her past. However, to get her to do this you have to get her to relax and let her guard down. The way to get someone to relax is to ask for advice. Also, you have to remain mysterious.

You're kind of like a therapist. You reveal little about yourself. She gets all in her feelings and by remaining mysterious in the process she transfers feelings from a loved one onto you. You're almost like her father figure in a sense and she grows to love you pretty quickly.

Also, while someone is relaxed you can plant ideas in their head.

Emotional connection can be built in so many ways. Depending on demographics though, the emotional connection technique matters a lot.

If you're sarging cougars and MILFs, try emotional connection through flattery and deep rapport. Deep rapport is simply drilling down into a topic that the woman likes to talk about. Flattery is self explanatory but focus on non-physical qualities more. However, as women age, or the older the woman is, flattering their/her physical qualities work better than some b.s. flattery on their/her non-physical qualities.

If you're sarging the 18 to 24 something age range, build familiarity first through propinquity. Propinquity is simply being seen on a regular basis in girl rich environments. Next, watch for overly emotional reactions from these girls. It could be triggered by a Justin Bieber song or a Jabbawockeez dance move.

In my mall sarges, I get instant emotional connection from girls when I belt out an Aerosmith song (I Don't Wanna Miss a Thing) or a hit from The Calling (Wherever You Will Go). This way, I don't approach or open. Girls approach and open me with a song request usually for a The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus hit song like this one:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q7Em4fUOrZo[/youtube]

After that, all I do is isolate and f-close.

If you're getting impatient with propinquity techniques, watch for girlie eye cues by firing up some of these emotional hook point topics:

1. toy dogs
2. cute cats or kittens
3. cotton candies or pink balloons
4. Justin Bieber/ Bradd Pitt/ Johnny Depp

When you notice a girl's eyes light up when you mention any of those topics, immediately transition into happy childhood topics like:

a) So when you were a kid, what was the best gift you ever received on Christmas?
b) For you, what was the happiest hangout you had with your best friend/s?

Be careful though in trying to build emotional connection with girls that you have just met or have interacted with for less than an hour or so. Girls find it creepy when you immediately try to build emotional connection when you have just opened them.

I've tried building emotional connection prematurely infield several times and girls ejected at once. I never recovered from those sarges. The girls I've sarged that way treat me like a leper or something every time they see me. So don't make the same mistake.

Only build emotional connection after you have been interacting with the girl for quite some time.

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Okay here... Using your example, all you'd have to say is something like "Wow, that's really cool. What made you want to get into that?" and be genuinely interested in her as a person and what she is saying.

Yea thats it. Its pretty simple and your over thinking it, making it more diffiult on a subconcious level. She already gave you the hooking point. She's into nursing and likes babies. Just talk about posiive experiences you have had dealing with that topic. Find out her other passions. Hobbies, favorites, etcs. "People develop rapport to those who are similar to them" since a plAy for play dialogue is what your looking for, here is an example:

Oh so you want to be a nurse. I used to babysitt my niece when she was first born and omg, babies are just so much fun.

Have you ever noticed how all babies find the strangest things to play with?
(This is a loop. She'll jump right thru it since thats what she is passionate about. She'll go into talking about her experience and then give you more to hook onto)

So lets say she responds with yes omg i remember once i was with jane doe and her daughter would always crawl to the corner and find something that we didnt even notice. One time she was crawling around and out of no where within like 5 sec she was trying to eat a tennis ball.

This is where you laugh it off, and reply with yea kids are so adorable arent they. Too bad they grow up too fast and turn into little teenage brats who become whiney And needy. Dont you just hate that?
(Another loop for her to jump through and qualify herself)

Hopefully that can help you get started. It makes no sense of me giving a full dialogue of how i would do it because it might not fit your frame

All were really helpful posts. Even @Majikal cause you pissed me off that one day by not letting me know you couldn't make it to the meeting lol. Your version was really simple so that was I did like that one a lot. Definitely going to give all different versions a shot.. . why not? YOLO!

But yeah what I'm getting out of this is just focusing on having a fun, giggling time. Making the girl laugh builds a connection in itself... then you can dig into those deeper topics.

Thanks playas!

Pretty much.

"So you travelled to Cork! Did you kiss the Blarney Stone?"
"No, I was too afraid i'd fall when kissing it!" / "Yeah and now I feel I can't shut up talking! Haha!!"
"Haha, I know. I was the same but I did it anyway! You kind of have to don't you?" / "When I was there it was closed. I feel like i've missed out!"

Blah, blah. Connection. We did this, isn't that so amazing that we, of all people, can share this amazing thing!

Best topic to connect with is countries you've both visited and if you haven't you can connect by talking about your passion for travelling(Everyone likes to visit different countries).