Hey gang,

New here, and this may not really be PUA persay, in that I've seen this girl a few times already and have some footing established - anyway - been on a few dates with this girl... gone really well. We've been somewhat amorous previously. Last date she wants to talk politics - I know we completely differ... I try and deflect w what I think good questions to derail her, but she's focused and presses on. I won't really answer her questions. Turns her off... I walk her home and try and kiss her goodnight - this time I get her cheek! I kinda leave deflated.

No real contact for 2 days. Stupidly I text and say I'm sorry how things ended that night (mistake probably?). She responds in what I think is was at least a moderately favorable way. But we don't have any real plans set and I'm not sure how to play my next move here.

Does getting the cheek there mean I'm done?

Thanks

Ok, so I'm sitting here at work on Saturday morning with nothing to do *yet*...

More back story:

So the whole walk home from the restaurant we are kinda talking politics and I'm still avoiding... asking stupid deflecting questions that she isn't finding the humor in. This date has a different feel than any of the others; I'm still feeling she's interested, but I can't seem to change the mood. Night ends, and I'm dropping her off at her house. We're standing around and (probably incorrectly) I ask her "what do you think of this (us)?". She says she's not sure. I say "Good, bad, ugly, undecided?" She goes "I think undecided." She asks me what I think. I say I thought it was good til the last few minutes... so I say well, let's talk later and plan something out... she agrees. I go in for the kiss. She turns her cheek. I'm embarrassed and kinda walk away. She calls after me as in like don't leave like that, and I get in the car and drive away.

That's the story. I'm sure I'm over-analyzing already but then there's this too:

on that date we had started a Words with Friends game. But we didnt play it. No moves were made. The next day she plays a move. I mean, wouldn't you think she'd just quit the game or ignore it if I was completely outta luck? Anyway she kicked my ass and kinda teased me about it throughout the game...

Two days pass and then I send the text saying I'm sorry about how the night ended...

-Heels

Alright, so screw it. I sent a text. Taking a while to get back to me. She sometimes does, so not a definite red flag, but not ideal obviously.

Why didn't you escalate on first few dates?

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No man, I did. Sorry, that's what I meant when I said we had been amorous. We'd kissed and been close. Hadn't slept together or anything... But then to get the cheek after having already established a seemingly higher level of intimacy... I don't get it. Probably bad huh?