Hey guys, have been reading your stuff for a while, first time post, would be awesome if you could help me with this. Its slightly complicated but bare with me, I would really appreciate your advice.

Went out with the boys and got rampage by this average girl at the bar, she forced a kiss, i had drank a bit and i went with it but then I booted from there. Found out later that she was a friend of a girl I work with.

Heres where it gets tricky.. the friend i work with has another friend who I am really into... So its all screwed up but basically I think that girl is an awesome girl... Basically I dont want a crappy drunken kiss to get in the way of something I could have with this girl.

I found out she is into me, have chatted with her last time I saw her... added her on facebook but she said (to the friend I work with) that she can't get over the fact that I kissed her sloppy friend...

Really into this girl, seeing her on the weekend and want to get some advice on what to do to progress. Feel stuck at the moment... I only added her on facebook.. no number.. havnt chatted to her since the weekend.

Any advice would be appreciated... Thanks in advance

Just downplay... but not unless she mentions it or harps on it. I'm sure she has shit she isn't proud of in her past - you just don't know about it.

Something like - "It really wasn't that big a deal, she was drunk and just kissed me"...

I wouldn't apologize for it.

Don't even worry about it. Like CharlesFinley says.. no big deal...

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thanks guys, appreciate it

sounds like a lot of hearsay going on. Who is lying , and who is telling the truth? or is there any truth? Your co-worker may be making up shit and telling some one. You can never trust in hearsay.

Another thought I have, is just lay the fat sloppy one you kissed. That's probably your pinnacle anyway even though you don't realize it now

You're right.. there is a lot of hearsay, but as i said, had long enough chats with her to know what I want.

Not to sound arrogant but a fat sloppy is not my pinnacle.

No, it's not very many people's pinnacle but you kissed her. What you kiss is what you are, it's who you are, it's what you deserve, and it's what you get. You're gonna end up with a fat slob, boy. You heard the old saying "once you go black you never go back" Same with fat slob

If that's your theory then I feel sorry for you dude... It was a fuck up, if it ended up screwing my chances with this girl I like, fine ill live with that. But not resorting to a girl I'm not into. Ill go out and find another gorgeous girl, ones that I have been with many times before. So respectfully disagree with you trying to tell me what I am

son , what do you want? if you want a long term stable relationship like marriage or kids or just a cool girlfriend, you are gonna have to settle for something like what you kissed. that's how this vicious game works.

Come on you're a player. You don't need to worry about things like this. You can kiss or talk to or fuck whoever you want whenever you want. They need to come to terms with that and they will, so long as you embody that frame of mind.

Dont b so hard on the kid I'm sure some of us have girls we don't talk about in our past. It doesn't change wat we want he'll in some cases it only furthers ur interest in the type of female u like. Don't b so quick to judge. Any way back to ur problem. Hate to say it but this 1 might b a loss. When u open a set they gather everything they need to know bout u in the 1st 3 minutes of convo that's Y the opener has importance. After that it is very hard to change a bad opinion to good. The only thing I could think of that might save u is try bein friends wit her friend show her u ain't a hit it n quit it kinda guy. Gain her trust and in doin so gain her interest. It's at that moment u can pawn off the sloppy girl for ur target. But u have to act fast. The clock is tickin. If u don't do it soon she will see ur trick then u r really fucked

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