Howdy gents,

For the past few months, most of the girls I've gotten on dates have had boyfriends, but they hadn't told me about it. This results in complicated situations, sometimes wasted effort.

I generally display extremely high value and attainability, although sometimes I amp up challenge when I think I'm coming off too nice (that's a tricky game to play). I'm naturally alpha but sometimes get vulnerable. I'm pretty good at handling most common compliance tests, but I've found that the ones offered by *inexperienced* women get under my skin, and I sometimes fail them.

I can usually get women I like who aren't telling me that they have boyfriends to meet me, and I've broken up a few relationships that way over the past few months... all entirely unintentionally. There are, of course, a few problems with not knowing a girl has a boyfriend:

1. You might unintentionally hurt some guy you don't know who probably doesn't deserve it.
2. You might get into a situation where a girl feels she has to shut you out of her life to save her relationship.
3. You might waste effort.

In my experience, girls who have boyfriends don't usually end up becoming my girlfriend even after I've broken them up... then again, I haven't had a girlfriend in four years.

I know from past experience that asking girls if they have boyfriends turns off a lot of girls, even single girls. So it's not a question that I ask. But guys I discuss this kind of stuff with do get told by girls that they have boyfriends, even when they don't ask.... So my question is: how do you best avoid the above three problems without actually asking if a girl is single?

-JJ

First this means you're awesome. It's her job to protect their relationship not yours. But you're probably a bad lay... otherwise they'd probably keep you around.

This.
http://i.imgur.com/9qmZCJR.jpg

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Yeah, probably LoL. In all seriousness, the quality of the sex on the first encounter has little to no impact on whether the girl wants a relationship. I've lasted 30 seconds with girls who then stalked me for months, and I've had wild, passionate encounters that lasted for hours with multiple orgasms with girls who didn't return my phone call. You need to worry about a girl leaving you if you aren't good in bed, but early on in a relationship, the quality of the sex doesn't matter much to the girl