Hey guys,
Bittersweet to be back after 4 years. I didn't realize how much I miss the chase, some good god damn times. My SO and I ended things about three weeks back, it was needed, not depressed about it just trying to get back into the game. I'm in uni and I just through myself the biggest 21st birthday bash anyone at school has ever seen a week ago. Had people coming up to me telling me it's the best party they'd ever been to in their lives and k closed a few girls in the middle of the party where everyone saw. Hence, my value in the social scene is at an all time high. Long story short, at said party I came across a HB9, grabbed her number, and we'd been texting for the past three days. Kinda poorly (I'm still trying to get back into the swing of things). here's the text convo:
Me: (insert my name)
hb: (insert name) Happy birthday!
me: hb! I bet my weekend could beat up yours
hb:Haha probably, but it depends on what terms youre talking
me:You tell me the craziest thing that happened to you this weekend and ill tell you mine. I have to warn you though, my weekend has been working out
hb:Lol well I ran 7.25 miles yesterday, and the last mile was with gushing bloody knees. But im sure those are very different terms than your crazy
me:Woahh hb, you sound like trouble. Luckily, I'm an EMT so I can handle a little blood. I had a patient once who cut open his entire calf muscle to the point that I could see his bone. THAT was crazy
hb:Yeah im hoping Im not that bad of a runner lol. But what was your crazy event of the weekend?
hb:Also so is that how you know (insert housemate)?
me:You!? A bad runner? Noooo way, gushing blood out of your knees is totally normal
me:Yeah, I've known (housemate) since freshman year. I'm gonna take a wild guess here, that's how you ended up at my party
hb:Lol yeah he invited us, ive known him since freshman year too
me:Ahhh it all makes sense now! Did you have a good time. Another wild guess, you're an engineer?
hb:I did I had a great time and nope, not at all - psychology and health/wellness
me:Beauty and brains! You know what, I think you'd make a great friend. But first, can you cook?
hb:Uhm is that a qualification for being your friend?? But yes I can cook
me:Don't get your hopes up for anything more than friends, you haven't even wined and dined me yet! I cooked for the second time in my life last night, I decided I'm gonna accept your application and hire you as my cooking consultant
hb: Hmm
hb: (after an hour she restarts convo) insert picture
hb:These are my bloody knees from the weekend
me:Woah woah woahh, I don't see any clothes in that picture! I barely know you hb, If you don't stop hitting on me so hard I'm gonna need a restraining order
hb:Lol my bad
me:What went through your head the moment you realized your knees were falling apart
hb:Lol well they didnt just fall apart, I fell and then had to dig rocks out of them. But we had to keep running so I could get home before I felt it
me:This is why we can't have nice things hb! You can't keep falling all over the place. That was the last straw, you're sleeping on the couch tonight
hb:Uhm nah ill sleep in my bed thanks lol
me:This relationship is on the fence! We'll grab coffee sometime and make up
hb:You are something else lol
me:"A keeper" is what you meant to say. Do you live on campus or off
hb: (insert place)
me:(insert coffee shop) is in the middle of both of us, let's go there. I can't do anything today but I miiight be able to pencil you in another time, when're ya free hb
hb:Lol Im barely ever free
me:Perfect, I love a challenge
-----Any advice on my texting game would be greatly appreciated
My housemate that's friends with her (whom she had a made out with a few times about 2 years ago) invites her over out of the blue after she hadn't responded to my last text to help me out. I was very/too intoxicated when she arrived due to some outside circumstances, which made me feel a bit awkward. I think I did okay-she wasn't engaging me much but when I would talk to her she'd devote her attention to me out of the five of us sitting around the couch. My housemates think I was doing okay in the beginning but killed it when I tickled her a bit when she tried to "take a nap" on our couch for a few mins (my way of getting some kino in). I did however make plans to get coffee with her tomorrow around 430 (despite her leaving me hanging over text), and then when she hugged me at the end of the night I gave her a two second limit and then accused her of being all over me and she played along saying "fine, we're done" in a cutesy way. The biggest mistake I made was saying bye at the door and letting my two housemates walk her home (I wish I could say my mindset was damage control at this point but I was just not thinking straight however-I had already set the date for tomorrow).
I'm trying to bring the cocky funny back, as you can see in the texts, even though she's not too enthusiastic about it. She's agree'd to help plan our next big party so I'll have some good one on one time with her when doing that. I'm simply flustered. I've been out of the game so long, I don't know what direction or any routines to pull out tomorrow at coffee and really what is my plan of gaming in general. Any advice whatsoever would be helpful, she's one of the top 5 most beautiful girls I've seen at my 4 years so far in college and I don't want to let this opportunity slip through my fingers, whether that be an opportunity to close of any kind of just an educational opportunity to help me get back on feet.
Much appreciated,
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