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PostPosted: Thu Sep 19, 2013 4:17 pm 
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Hi

when talking to a girl, are you supposed to be looking into her eyes at all times?
I have often caught myself looking behind her or around her. so for example, she might ask me "what do you do?" and I start looking around, either behind her, or to her left, or to her right.
does this show lack of confidence? should I be looking at her throughout the entire interaction?

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 Post subject: Re: eye contact
PostPosted: Thu Sep 19, 2013 5:13 pm 
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Don't look around.

If you can't hold eye contact or feel self conscious about holding eye contact(It can be intimidating if it's not natural for you) just look over her left shoulder and keep the gaze there. Use eye contact when you close though, that's a must.


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 Post subject: Re: eye contact
PostPosted: Thu Sep 19, 2013 5:34 pm 
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Hi

when talking to a girl, are you supposed to be looking into her eyes at all times?
I have often caught myself looking behind her or around her. so for example, she might ask me "what do you do?" and I start looking around, either behind her, or to her left, or to her right.
does this show lack of confidence? should I be looking at her throughout the entire interaction?
Always err on the side of too much eye contact if eye contact is a sticking point for you. Don't worry about being creepy for now, worry about maintaining eye contact.

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 Post subject: Re: eye contact
PostPosted: Thu Sep 19, 2013 7:43 pm 
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Too much before too little. Especially in situations where a girl is considering fucking you (which should be most situations, with girls you like), testing your eye contact is almost a game you can play to be like, "Yes. I am leader here. I can control your soul with my eyes. What's up."

Unflinchingly looking a girl directly in the eyes when you talk to her is a huge demonstration of dominance, power, and status.


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 Post subject: Re: eye contact
PostPosted: Thu Sep 19, 2013 8:08 pm 
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It needs to be normal eye contact, not a staring contest. That's worth noting.

You can blink, smile, change which eye you focus on from time to time just as long as you hold that contact... just don't make it a staring contest.


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 Post subject: Re: eye contact
PostPosted: Fri Sep 20, 2013 8:43 am 
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In addition to what everyone said (those are all good, btw), here are some I use infield and used before in my career for marketing/business development job roles:
  • 1. When a woman speaks for longer than 30 seconds, look up or through her sides. Don't look down.

    2. When a woman speaks for 30 seconds or so, look straight into her pupils.

    3. When you are talking to a woman, look deep into her pupils.

    4. When you want to show sympathy, look down. However, always look straight or up in most occasions unless there's a funeral or someone died.

    5. When speaking with other guys in a set where the woman you're sarging belongs, don't look into the guys' pupils. Look at the bridge of their noses instead. This gives the impression that you are looking into their eyes without fear or hesitation.

    6. When other guys are speaking, look around 80% of the time and look at the bridge of their noses 20% of the time. Do not nod your head. Keep your chin leveled, not pointing down.
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